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The business of marriage is the idea of using lessons from your business life to help you in your marriage. And, using lessons and things you’ve learned in your marriage to help you in your business. 

I love talking about this because Orlena and I have been married for 40 years and we’ve been in business and worked together for the last 10. 

We have had many conversations about how we have learned different things from our business that we can apply to our marriage; and how we have learned different things from our marriage that we can apply to our business.

Business/Marriage

Here are a couple of things to think about that will help sharpen and make both your business and your marriage better. 

  1. In business you need to know your customer. You need to know their needs, what they like, and what they don’t like. You also need to know all the little details about them so that you can serve them well and they will stay a lifetime customer. 
  2. Well, that’s no different than what we’re talking about for a marriage. You need to look at your spouse and learn about them. You need to find out what makes them tick. Find out the things that are meaningful to them; the things that create value and build on that long term relationship. 
  3. How much time are you investing in your business? Let’s say you’re working 50-60 hours a week. When you do so, you expect a certain return, result or experience out of that. 
  4. So let’s flip that question around and ask how much time are you really investing in your marriage or your family? And are you investing in them with the idea that there’ll be a positive or good return out of that? 

It’s a different way of looking at your marriage, and it’s a different way of looking even at your business result. 

Where are you at in your business and your marriage these days? At Confidence Coach we are here to help business owners, entrepreneurs and CEOs to grow in their business and work, but our lives are not one dimensional, we all have a life outside of work. Are you putting as much time and effort into your marriage as you are your business? 

Reach out if you’d like to talk with us about this. Schedule a free appointment today.


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The halo effect is the tendency to think positively about a person based on just one aspect of their character. Which can lead the most successful people to get trapped by their own thinking.

Below are some ways the halo effect can influence you as a person or as a business owner in different ways in your life. 

  1. A couple of sayings around money:  Money doesn’t make you smart; wealthy people can easily confuse luck with skill.
  2. Prior success does not guarantee future success. 
  3. Intelligence is often situational and specific. 
  4. Highly Successful People rarely have anyone to challenge their thinking. They’re often times surrounded by “yes” people.

Just some thoughts about this. If you have customers, vendors, or partners, you have people in your life that you have put a halo over their head. It’s good to remember that we all put on our pants one leg at a time. And, each person, no matter who they are, struggles in at least one area of their life. 

Remember this when you are talking to a potential huge customer or you’re trying to close a deal or you’re seeking advice from your attorney, accountant or coach. Everybody has things that they struggle with; we’re all equal in that regard. These people have an area where they’re struggling and maybe you have a strength. Or vice versa, you’re struggling in an area that is their strength. 

The halo effect is something we all do with people. We put people on pedestals; think of American Idol, Survivor or some billionaires for example.

A good thing to always remember is that we are all equal in some areas, in other areas we have greater strengths, and in other areas we all share weaknesses. 

At Confidence Coach, we are here to help and encourage business owners, CEOs and entrepreneurs to build a better future. Feel free to reach out for a free consultation if you’d like to learn more about how we help people build their confidence and hope for a great future.


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Question of the day for you:  How is your leadership?

How has your leadership affected the results in your business in the past and presently today?

What do you need to change in order to get a different and/or better result in the future? 

How is your leadership affecting your company’s results?

These are just a few things for you to consider and ponder today. 

At Confidence Coach we ask deep questions that help business owners, entrepreneurs, CEOs and leaders create breakthroughs. Schedule a free consultation if you’d like to talk. Make it a great day!

 


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Here’s an interesting thought by Byron Katie. She has an idea which takes the massive dreams, goals and aspirations we have for our business, our life, and our relationships and breaks it down to a very simple interesting thought which I have taken the challenge of, and I hope you will too. We can journey on this together because accomplishing your biggest hopes and dreams in your life and business are wrapped up in this statement. 

“You can have anything you want in life if you’re willing to ask 1,000 people.” 

Because of the experience with our clients and their employees using the Dream Employee program, I would change her saying a little bit. The second one that I came up with (and a lot of people have said this as well, maybe just a little differently) is:

“You can have all of your dreams and goals in your life if you’re willing to help 1,000 people achieve their dreams and goals in their life.” 

I think these two statements can reframe the big goals and dreams you have for the next 5, 10, 15, even 25 years into bite size steps you can take. 

How does that fit into you achieving your 10 year goal?

These two mindsets or ways of approaching goals, dreams and aspirations are incredibly powerful!

Let me challenge you to apply them as well. Send me an email with your thoughts and share your results. How are you going to apply these two mindsets to your life and your business going forward? Reach out today and schedule a free call if you’d like to talk. We are here to help you make progress towards your own goals and dreams.


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A good friend of mine, Cliff Ravenscraft is a coach in Kentucky. I recently heard him talk on the topic of “Who and I, and why am I here?”

This is a question that really goes back to the basis of doing and working with a sense of purpose, a sense of courage and confidence, a sense of belief that brings breakthroughs, transformations and success in your personal and your business life.

But these are questions that in the business world we don’t really ever see go that deep. 

And so today I would like to challenge you to take a minute and turn everything off and answer the two questions:

Who am I?

Why am I here?

After you’ve done this, I also challenge you to do as Cliff suggests — keep asking yourself that question for the next seven days (write it down) without looking back at the previous day’s answer and see what your answer is on the seventh day. 

Who am I, and why am I here? 

If we can get an answer to these questions, then the future becomes much brighter and clearer. 

The barriers or obstacles to the future that you have in your mind become smaller and easier to eliminate. 

The opportunities of knowing who you are and why you’re here are like a filter and this enables you to match who you are and why you’re here to the business and life that you want to lead.

Last, but not least, maybe the most important thing is to live into this as you work in your life. Live out who you are in truth, and know why you’re here in your work and have your mission become your vision in your personal and business life. 

I challenge you to ask yourself these questions.

I also challenge you if you want to have a conversation about this because maybe you feel awkward to do this on your own, feel free to reach out to me. I would be glad to spend 20 minutes with you and have this conversation and help you dig in and discover the answer to these two questions.

The answers to these questions can be quite profound. In our busy Western world we don’t ever take the time to really answer and pursue or find out what this is for us.


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I have some questions or thoughts for you today that I want you to do a little soul searching and see if any of them sound familiar or maybe you’ve just thought them to yourself in the past. Is this you? 

  1. Do you say to yourself, I’m not lonely but I feel very alone being a leader?
  2. If I stopped working so hard would this all just disappear and go away? Would I lose my business? 
  3. It’s strange but people admire me but sometimes I feel really lazy. 
  4. My big vision that inspires so many people in my company and in the business world doesn’t really inspire me anymore. 
  5. I’m so good at solving problems that I don’t even see it or know it. It’s like a blind spot for me, and I just kind of unconsciously solve people’s problems. 
  6. I have a lot of success, money, recognition, all the toys but inside I feel strangely unfulfilled. 
  7. I feel like I’m in a rut. I feel like I’m bored and like I’ve already done this and there’s not really a challenge anymore. I could do this with my eyes closed.

If you think any of the above thoughts, I totally get it. I hear these things from my clients all the time. 

It’s the part of being a leader, of being successful, of being somebody that has “achieved” what the world would define as success. But from working with high level leaders, I know there’s more. There’s so much more and the traditional definition or markers of success are not it. For you there’s something bigger and deeper that you want to do. 

So that’s who I work with, and that’s what they do. We go past whatever is deemed success by the world, dig deeper, go further and change the world.

If this resonates with you, reach out to me. Let’s have a 30 minute conversation and see what happens.


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Your “one big idea” is so important, but not so easy to capture because the world is throwing information at you at a million miles an hour. 

Everything is sped up. 

Everything is faster. 

We have podcasts instead of books.

We have the ability to listen to recordings at one and a half times speed.

Then we have apps that tell us what the books say!

But let’s think about this: Charlie Munger, Warren Buffett’s longtime business partner once said, “Take a simple idea and take it seriously and you’ll change the world.”

Let’s talk about that.

What is your one idea that five years from now you can become known for taking?

You’re known for it. 

What is that? What would that be? 

Let me know.

At Confidence Coach we are known for asking the questions that no one else asks, helping you get the breakthrough and insight that you really need to move forward to the next level. Reach out today and schedule a free call if you’d like help in moving forward or getting clear about your one big idea.


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What are the little things that you are doing right now that in the future will lead to the big things in your life?

I really love this saying by Robert Brault: “Enjoy the little things, for one day you may look back and realize they were the big things.” 

Here’s a list of little things that I’ve compiled for myself that I believe in the future will end up being the big things:

  1. Saying I love you daily.
  2. Sharing a hug.
  3. Saying please and thank you.
  4. Listening intently to the person in front of me. 
  5. Learning something new today.
  6. Being thankful.
  7. Smiling. 
  8. Doing meaningful work. 
  9. Having a great conversation.
  10. Speaking words of encouragement. 
  11. Sending handwritten notes. 
  12. Living out my faith and beliefs.
  13. Singing songs that give me joy.
  14. Walking into somebody’s life when everybody else walks out.

These are just a few of the things that I believe are little today but in the long term will be the big things in my life and in my legacy.

What are some little things in your life that you feel will make a huge difference in the long run? Please let me know at scott@confidencecoach.org or schedule a call to share your thoughts.


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Who’s going to ask the tough questions nobody else has the courage to ask you?

Is it your CPA?

Is that your lawyer? 

Is it your manager in your business?

Is it one of your vendors?

Is it one of your customers?

Is it your employee who has your 100% interest at heart?

Who can you trust?

That’s me. 

Many people just like you, many business owners just like you, many leaders in business, many CEOs, many dyslexic business owners and entrepreneurs come to us and trust us. 

Check out the testimonies on our website to see what they are saying. 


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Something I’ve discovered over 13 years of coaching business owners, entrepreneurs and CEO’s is that no matter how successful these people are, they are lonely.

In fact, the more successful they are, the lonelier they become.

If you step back and think about it, it makes total sense.

Nobody understands their problems.

Nobody understands the decisions, the choices, or the sacrifices that they make on a daily basis.

Nobody understands the responsibilities that they have for hundreds and thousands of people, their jobs and their livelihoods.

Nobody really listens.

Everybody that comes to them wants something from them.

It’s lonely at the top.

I know that.

I know you and I understand.

I’m here to listen, to learn and ask you the really hard questions.

Remember, you don’t have to be alone. At Confidence Coach we are here to offer business owners a place to reconnect and rebuild their confidence; which leads to their better future in the days and years ahead. Reach out today and schedule a free call if you’d like to talk. We are here to help and encourage you. 


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