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Have you ever made the correlation between how you invest your time and money in your marriage relationship with how you invest time and money in your business?

Last month I spoke to you about the Business of Marriage with the idea being you can use life lessons from your marriage that can cross over into your business as well. Today is another thought on that subject regarding investing.

Let’s say you “invest” in your marriage by buying an anniversary trip to Hawaii. By doing this you are investing in this trip with intentionality. You are also investing in your spouse and your relationship. And, you are creating value and longevity through positive experiences.

When you think about investing in your business are you thinking the same way? Are you thinking long term? Because we all know in our business that the greatest investments are the ones that pay off long term; not just a one off deal, but for the long term of your business.

This is just another way of looking at marriage, and then reversing it and asking how would this be really effective if I thought this way about my business and I invested in that for a lifetime for the long term.

Reach out if you’d like to talk with us about this. Schedule a free appointment today.


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Question of the day for you:  How is your leadership?

How has your leadership affected the results in your business in the past and presently today?

What do you need to change in order to get a different and/or better result in the future? 

How is your leadership affecting your company’s results?

These are just a few things for you to consider and ponder today. 

At Confidence Coach we ask deep questions that help business owners, entrepreneurs, CEOs and leaders create breakthroughs. Schedule a free consultation if you’d like to talk. Make it a great day!

 


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Here’s a new term for you:  “stuckedness.” Life is too short to stay stuck. 

It’s not your challenges that are holding you back from reaching your full potential and your best future. Instead, it’s the lack of action to overcome these challenges. You need to grow and change through the experiences that you live. 

Are you living your best version of yourself? Or, do you feel stuck in one area or maybe several areas of your life? 

Stuckedness Statements

Over the last five years, I’ve been keeping track of people’s “stuckedness” statements and how they’ve gotten stuck in their business and/or their life. I’d like to share some of those statements with you. See if you recognize yourself saying some of these things.

  1. I don’t feel worthy (or better known as the imposter syndrome). I’m really good at what I do, however, there are so many others who have been doing this for so much longer with so much more education or experience or maybe a larger following. It makes me feel like an imposter. Why would somebody even consider me when they could just go to one of my competitors in the industry?
  2. Nobody will ever pay me that much money for the service (or product or experience) I provide. I have a great fear that I’ll never be able to make more money than what I need to survive on.
  3. I’m stuck. My stuckedness is — I have dyslexia, ADD, ADHD, a learning disability, etc. Because of that, I can never get past where I’m at today. I’m stuck here in this crappy job or in this business that owns me and controls me 80 hours a week. 
  4. I’m afraid of what people will say. I am afraid if I start this business, or if I buy that location, or if I hire that person, or, or, or whatever. I’m afraid of what they (the great “they” out there) might say about me. Am I greedy? Am I selfish? Have I sold my soul for the dollar.
  5. I don’t have time to finish that degree. I don’t have time to have a relationship. I don’t have time for my kids. I don’t have time for my marriage. (These are the lies that say you don’t have enough time.)
  6. I’m stuck in my head. I’m overanalyzing, overthinking, over planning, over worrying, to the point of never doing anything.
  7. Whenever I think about my future, I can only see or think or believe that it’s not going to work out.
  8. I’m afraid to hire someone. I’m afraid to make an investment. I’m afraid to leave my current security to go after something better.

These are just some of the “stuckedness” statements and comments that I’ve heard over the last five years from clients that reached out to work on their problems. These statements were holding them back from taking what we call “brave” or “massive” action to face their fear and become 100% committed to doing something about it. I’m thrilled to say that all the clients that shared the above statements with me have resolved their issues. Not only have they resolved them, but they’ve overcome them and are succeeding far beyond their wildest dreams as a result of getting unstuck!

One-on-One or Mastermind

My great passion, joy, and gift in this world is to bring insight, breakthrough, and transformation. I love to bring miracles into people’s lives through one question or one conversation that changes everything. I do this one-on-one with people and also through a group coaching program. 

There’s currently room for two one-on-one coaching clients right now. We also have room in our next mastermind group which will start in August of 2021. If you’re interested in taking on one of your places that you’re stuck and take that part of your life to the next level, reach out to me by either emailing me (or hit reply) or schedule a free consultation. Let me know the area of your life, whether personal, business or both, where you feel stuck. I look forward to hearing from you. 


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Do you feel like you are a victim sometimes? We’ve all had bad things that happen to us. Are you still living in the past with those bad things and thoughts? And are you still acting and believing like you’re a victim? You need to change that now. 

Your identity is not that you’re a victim. 

I’d like to suggest that you find some people or even one person that is full of hope, full of vision and full of happiness. Then, you need to start being grateful and appreciate all that life has brought you so far.

When you start to do these things you’ll start to have hope. 

Appreciation brings hope.

And when you have hope, you will start to see and experience a vision for your life, for your business, for who you are to be in the world. 

“Let your hopes, not your hurts, shape your future.” – Robert H. Schuller

My question for you today is are you still wearing the victim label? Step out today and associate with others that are full of hope.

When you have hope, you can change what you thought was a victim into a victor! 

At Confidence Coach, we are here to help and encourage you to build a better future. Feel free to reach out for a free consultation if you’d like to learn more about how we help people build their confidence and hope for a great future.


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Are you struggling with how to lead during these difficult times?

Does it feel like your ability to lead and move forward in your business is stuck?

Do you want to get unstuck from your leadership trap today?

Below is the way forward to lead in this difficult time (or any time for that matter) and it’s called the Humble Leader.

Here are 13 traits of a humble leader:

    1. You’re influenceable. You’re open to other people’s ideas, thinking and ways of doing things. 
    2. You can be corrected without defending yourself. When was the last time you were corrected?
    3. You’re happy for others when they succeed. The test is especially true when it’s something that you’ve also wanted to succeed at.
    4. There’s no job too small for you to do. When was the last time you did a small job in your business?
    5. You don’t always have to be right about everything. 
    6. You naturally seek advice from others. Do you seek input in your leadership model?
    7. You’re teachable. You never stop learning and you know that learning is the roadway to better leadership and a better tomorrow.
    8. You freely admit your flaws, your mistakes, and your failures on a regular basis and you have the ability to laugh at yourself.
    9. You live to see others succeed. This is your intentional and internal motivation in everything you do. 
    10. You’re not easily offended by people, situations or words. 
    11. You’re thankful, grateful and appreciative, and you have a grateful attitude for your team, your customers, your vendors, and for life. 
    12. You don’t live with a sense of entitlement that somebody or something or someone owes you something because you’re the leader.
    13. You’re content with who you are and you’re content with who you are not, or in other words, you’re good in your own skin

How do you rate on these traits as a humble leader? If you want help to get unstuck as a leader and move forward, reach out and schedule a free consultation today. Let’s talk about it.


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Today I just want to present an insight about being vulnerable that I’ve been experiencing with coaching and leadership recently. In the past, I’ve tried to hide my challenges or mistakes, my being dyslexic and all that comes with that. But in the last year or so, I’ve been being vulnerable and shared my life story. I’ve discovered that sharing about my dyslexia, my failures, my need to learn, my not knowing all the answers, my listening to other people, and being transparent about my history has helped me to lead people to discover their own strengths and breakthroughs. 

I’ve been on quite a few podcasts in the last few months, done some Facebook Lives, been interviewed and also been on a bunch of webinars. Being transparent, I’ve shared that I’m dyslexic and was told that I was stupid and would never be anything by my first grade teacher. I  dealt with depression and thoughts of suicide as a young 7-8-9 year old kid. But I realized there was hope and a light around this situation. I had people that believed in me and found that God cared about me. That my life mattered and that there was a plan for me. I’ve just been really vulnerable and really pushing the envelope about my life.

As most of you know, I work with business owners and I always felt like I couldn’t go too far in sharing my past because it might be too much for them to handle. But as I’ve started to tell the whole story, the response has been amazing and phenomenal. Much to my pleasant surprise, people are buying my book “The Biggest Disability is a Bad Attitude” and booking me to speak to their groups.

Something I’m learning is that people, companies, business leaders, and employees are desperate for authentic transparency. They want real people, not Photoshop or social media that says everything is great all the time. 

There’s such a hunger for the reality of someone’s life and to have a person open up enough to admit where they’ve gone wrong, say what really happened and even share the consequences. For example — here’s what happened when we lost a lawsuit; here’s what happened when we did this or that. 

I’ve realized the power of being vulnerable in sharing these things. A coach and leader who is real and vulnerable gives people hope. It also helps people in return be vulnerable and open with me so I can help them in an even deeper way; it creates for them insights, breakthroughs, transformation and miracles. But this all starts with me setting the example. 

I’m challenging you as a leader to be vulnerable. Be honest with people. Share the experiences you have had – the good, the bad, the ugly, the in-between, the successes, and the failures. 

The more you do this, the more people will gravitate to you and want to follow you. People will want to listen, learn and then follow whatever the vision or mission you have for your business or your company. 

But I challenge you to put on vulnerability and transparency of who you really are – show up as yourself. 

That’s my challenge:  Show Up As Yourself! 

Tell the true story. Get into the details of it.

Watch people around you react in a way that both positive and meaningful. Then watch your ability as a leader multiply.

Schedule a free consultation if you’d like to talk more about this. 


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Most entrepreneurs, business owners, and leaders begin their day with a “to do” list of what they have to get done that day in their life and business. Maybe it’s a list of all the responsibilities that have to be taken care of. Either way, this can be burdensome and a tough way to start the day and gain momentum. 

I’d like to suggest you test and experiment with an idea I have around changing the words from “I have to” to “I get to.” Instead of saying “I have to” do accounting today say “I get to” do accounting today. Change from “I have to” make sales calls today and rephrase it to “I get to” make sales calls today. You get the idea!! 

Instead of telling yourself “I have to” hire someone today, say “I get to” hire someone today. Change the phraseology of having to do something to you get to do something. Those three little words of “I get to” will change your thinking, change your attitude, and also tremendously change your energy as you proceed throughout the day. 

Most people view their “to do” list as an “I have to” list. Instead, call it your “I Get To” list!!

My challenge for you is to change the “I have to’s” that you have on your to do list to “I get to’s” and see what effect it as on your results. I think the volume of work you get done will increase as well as the amount of things you accomplish.

Make the great exchange from “I have to” to “I get to.”

Reach out today and schedule a free call if you’d like to talk more about this and other ways to change and improve your mindset. 


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Your job as the business owner, CEO, manager, or HR director is to create leaders. Leaders are people that have confidence, courage, and capabilities to lead in their job, their department and in the company. But my question to you is, are you actually creating an environment where you’re creating leaders or are you creating an environment where you’re creating followers? Are you creating followers that have been given no responsibility, no opportunities, no courage or confidence to learn how to lead? 

The goal for you as a business owner is to create leaders, because as your people become leaders, your business becomes all that you hoped and dreamed it would be. In order to do this though, you have to focus on creating leaders out of your team and your employees. You have to start taking the steps to teach them, give them opportunities and show them what it means to lead in their job, in their work, with their co-workers, in their department and within the company. 

My challenge and question to you today is:  Are you creating leaders or followers? 

Make it a great day.


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I’ve a very short statement for you today. I’d love to hear your thoughts about it and whether or not you believe this is true. 

Our deepest desire in life is to find somebody who will make us do what we can do.

Let me know if you believe that’s true, or what that means to you. 

This is my actual job description as a coach.


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Instead of thinking about what you want to become or who you want to be like — think about who you want to become. Then start making choices, habits, decisions, thinking and triggers that help you become who you want to become. 

Let’s say you want to become a better leader in your business. Then start being, acting, and choosing to be like a leader. 

Let’s say that you want to be a writer. Then start writing every day for five minutes. 

Let’s say that you want to be a better father or a mother. Then act like one.

Act like what you want to become and who you want to be.

If you want to be a hero, then act like a hero.

Over time if you develop these new actions and habits, then the way you think and act will automatically appear in your life.

So think about the question of who you want to become and then start to act like it. Start to think like it. Start to make choices around the person you want to become in order to be where you want to be three years from today.

At Confidence Coach we are here to offer business owners a place to reconnect and rebuild their confidence; which leads to their better future in the days and years ahead. Reach out today and schedule a free call if you’d like to talk. We are here to help and encourage you.

 


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