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Do you consider yourself a “grateful” or positive person?

Are you in the HABIT of being grateful for things that happen in your life or do you tend to be a pessimist?

I want to encourage you that you always have a choice to react in either a positive or a negative way. Even in difficult circumstances, if you develop the practice of thanksgiving and gratitude, your outlook and attitude with improve.

What is your first reaction when things aren’t going the way you want? Next time this happens, stop and think twice about how you are going to respond.

As we say, think about your thinking. Here are some questions that come to mind that you should ask yourself first:

  • How am I going to react to this?  
  • How am I going to process this?  
  • How am I going to think about this?  
  • How am I going to respond?  

That’s what it all comes down to:  MAKING A CHOICE to be thankful and grateful in spite of your circumstances.

Do you choose to view a situation positively with gratitude or dwell on the negative?

Gratitude was a choice that I made at a very young age.

School was extremely difficult for me, and I had teachers telling me that I was stupid! (Hopefully this isn’t happening in the schools now like it was back in the ’60s.)

Luckily, I had an extremely loving and caring family so all my self-worth was not based on the education system. I also had a faith and belief in God that sustained me. (I wrote a book a few years ago that tells my whole story and the practice of gratitude.)

I decided at a very young age to think about everything in my life that I was grateful for.

Every night before I went to sleep, I sat in my little bunk bed and thought about what I was grateful for. Here are a few of those things I thought about:

I’m grateful for my grandmother and how much she loved me.

I’m really grateful for how much my parents care about me.

I’m really grateful that today I got to play football.

This may sound trivial because it’s just a little kid thinking about little things. But, it’s that kind of thinking that has made me the positive, encouraging person I am today. In fact, that’s the number-one thing people say about me: that I am one of the most positive, encouraging people they’ve ever met.

The reason for this is simple:

GRATITUDE.

I’ve made it a daily practice in my life to list out all the things I am grateful to God for. Gratitude has allowed me to be able to serve people without any expectation of them ever being able to do anything for me. Instead, I am simply grateful for the opportunity to serve and how good it makes me feel in my heart and soul.

Often people wonder why they are so discontented, unhappy and stressed. They have anxiety. One of the main reasons for this is spending too much time thinking about what we don’t have instead of what we do have.

Gratitude is like an inoculation against being discouraged, upset, afraid or depressed.

We all have low times, but gratitude can help us make our way through them.

When I am feeling down or depressed, I stop and think about what I am thankful and grateful for. When I focus on those positive things, I start to appreciate them more, and they become more valuable to me. I think about God, my wife and kids, grandkids, friends, clients, experiences, places, etc., and realize how very blessed I am!

You too can live a different life with a different purpose and a different intention. Start leading a life of gratitude. Take into account – on a daily basis – everything you are grateful for.

Please share with us how gratitude or choices have made a difference for you and what you’re grateful for today.

For more on Gratitude check out The Biggest Disability is a Bad Attitude.

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Do you sometimes feel like you don’t have any choice in making a change that will take your business to the next level?  Don’t fall into that trap.

You always have a choice.

Sometimes that choice is simply in how you respond or react to change, adversity or a particular situation.

The first and most important choice is to have a mindset to look at situations, difficulties, challenges, obstacles, barriers in your business as opportunities. The bigger, more difficult and the more challenging a situation or problem is — the greater the opportunity you have to build a bigger and better future for you and your business.

One of the ways to do this is get clear: 

  • Identify. Get out of your mind and onto a piece of paper exactly what this obstacle, barrier or challenge is.  
  • What’s in the way. Decide what are all of the things around it that are preventing you from moving past it or finding a solution to go around it.
  • List them out. List each obstacle or situation out so that you can break them down. Ask yourself the question for each one: What is a simple, basic thought to transform this barrier or obstacle?
  • First Step. What is a simple first solution or step that would take us past, through or over the top of this obstacle?

A lot of our coaching is “thinking about your thinking”.  Be aware of how you’re reacting to challenges and problems in your company, business or corporation.

I’d be curious to hear what the biggest obstacle is that you are facing. What do you feel is keeping you from reaching the next level in your business?

What’s in the way?

Identify and work on what’s in the way; then you can also get clear about solutions and next steps. (Which will also help you figure out the team and resources that you will need in order to move forward.)

Today’s all about choice. But, first you have to choose to think about these obstacles, barriers and problems in a whole new way.

That’s the challenge today — think about what’s in your way. Let us know what that is and/or schedule a free consultation and let us take you through this little exercise and help you turn your obstacles into opportunities.


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We are working with several companies right now and their number one challenge is on-boarding and recruiting. They are trying to fill empty spots that they have in their company and it’s becoming a huge issue.

One client was sharing the other day that he has a candidate for a very important position. He met with him, went through all the interviews, and they really feel that this is the right person. But, the gentleman told him that he has two other offers and that he’s trying to decide which is the best offer. The money’s about the same, the industries are the same and the company sizes are pretty equal. The client said he didn’t know what else to do in order to get this guy to come to work for them and not one of their competitors.

I asked him what he’d talked about. He said, he’d told him about how great the company was, the culture, that their company is like a family, and they’ve been in business a long time. This would be a great fit for him and he wouldn’t have to move. Unfortunately, these are all the same things that every other company has been telling him.

So I said, why don’t we think about it from the candidate’s viewpoint. I told him to call the guy back in and once he’s sitting down, ask him these questions:

  • How could this position help you get what you want out of life?
  • What are your dreams, goals, aspirations?

Then spend a half hour talking about how your company can help him achieve those dreams, goals and aspirations.

And I said to him, if everything else is equal, but you’re actually talking about what the candidate wants to do with his life, his personal dreams and goals for himself, his family, and find out what he wants out of life — once he sees that you care about that, you will have an unfair recruiting tactic that nobody else is using in your industry. Sure enough, that was the result. The guy came to work for him after they had that conversation.

Are you experiencing problems in this zero unemployment environment? Do you need more people on your team? Is recruiting much harder, and you seem to have an endless number of vacancies to fill? Try this approach and ask the recruits the above questions.

This will set you apart from your competition and enable you to get those key people into your company so that you can keep on the path of growth.

At Confidence Coach, we help business owners, CEOs, and entrepreneurs with the task of maximizing their greatest asset, which is their employees, their “first” customers. Part of doing this is you have to be a great recruiter. Part of being a great recruiter is not seeing it just from your side (the company’s side). Instead, you need to see it from the perspective of the potential candidate — who could come in and help your company grow even further.

We also use these same questions when working with companies using The Dream Employee. If you’d like to know more, schedule a free consultation.


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What makes employees stay with a company or organization for a long time?

As we’re using The Dream Employee process with companies, we’ve discovered two things that make people stay.

When we ask someone who’s been with an organization 5, 10, 15, 20, even 30 years, why they have been there so long, we consistently hear the same answer.

It is because they feel acknowledged and appreciated.

  1. They are acknowledged for the value and contribution they bring to the business. 
  2. They are also told how much they are appreciated for the great job they are doing. 

As a leader, manager, CEO, or business owner if you remember to do these two things — ACKNOWLEDGE and APPRECIATE your employees — it will extend the life of your employees!!

If you have any comments or thoughts on this, let me know.


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If you are looking for another great way to end a meeting on a positive note, I would suggest using the Circle of Encouragement. Since we talked before about starting a meeting with wins (sharing things that people are excited about), we wanted to give you this new strategy of how to end a meeting with a lasting impression.

It can be used after a long strategy meeting, a coaching session, or any team meeting you have on a regular basis. Using this will end a meeting on a high note and in a completely different way. Each time you use it, you will get amazing results. 

The Circle of Encouragement is also something we use with our clients when we work with them during The Dream Employee process. 

My wife and I even use it when we celebrate family birthdays with our kids. The power of encouragement goes a long way and you can never have too much of it!

This may be a real stretch for you. But, I guarantee it will create great culture, collaboration, and unity within your company in a profound way.

Here’s how to create a Circle of Encouragement: 

  1. Have your team stand in a circle.
  2. One person starts by turning to the person on their right. For 30 seconds they say all the things that they appreciate about that person in the work that they do within the company. This is a time to speak only words of encouragement (it may be something you admire about them personally or professionally).
  3. Then the person that just received the encouraging words turns to the person on their right and does the same thing. Speaking words of encouragement for 30 seconds.
  4. This process repeats itself and goes all the way around the circle. 
  5. When you get back to the person that started it, reverse the circle (speak to the person on your left) and go the other way and repeat the process.
  6. You are done when each person gets to speak and receive encouragement from the people on both sides of them.

I first learned how to do this when taking teams all over the world on mission trips to Africa, India and Haiti. After using this with about 30 different teams over the last 10 years, I’ve since adapted it to business. 

Seeing the impact words of encouragement have on people prompted us to use this process with our coaching clients at the end of a meeting or training session. 

What this really does is it brings unity, appreciation and respect. It creates a culture where positive things are verbalized and people get to hear about the things that they’re doing well. 

This creates unity within the team. 

It also helps people in the circle who don’t work together closely get to know one another better and understand what each person really brings to the team. It’s brings great value.

Do these negative comments sound familiar?  “I’m overwhelmed because I’ve got 15 new things I’ve got to do”; “I didn’t understand that”; or “That meeting didn’t go well”?

I guarantee you will get a different result if you use the Circle of Encouragement at the end of the meeting.

Begin your meetings with Wins and End them with Encouragement! 

Create a culture that is unstoppable and goes beyond just doing a job. You’ll be creating an atmosphere that is all about seeing the best in one another.

Everybody in this day and age needs encouragement! And so we actually put it in the meeting agenda. We teach it; we do it with people. It’s uncomfortable at first. The result is the whole culture will be transformed when people start receiving encouragement.

What we are all about at Confidence Coach is transforming cultures; making the workplace for employees and owners to be awesome. 

In order to be awesome, people have to feel encouraged and to feel like they’re winning. For it to make an impact, you have to do this on a regular and consistent basis..

Let us know if you’d like more information on how to do a Circle of Encouragement at your company. We’d be glad to come in and show you how to implement it either virtually or in person. Subscribe to our YouTube channel or check us out at confidencecoach.org

Schedule a free consultation if you’d like to talk about this area of employee engagement, employee retention, or how to improve the culture of your company. 

We love what we do and we’d love to help you!


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Do you want to know the secret to getting that extra effort from your employees? 

How do you get them to go the extra mile and consistently improve their performance? 

Well, the answer might surprise you. It’s really not up to them. 

It’s up to you!

I challenge you to take a walk around your business; really take a look at how your employees are working and what they’re doing. 

Here’s the catch though.

Go around with your focus being these three things:

  • Look for what they’re doing right.
  • Look for what they are doing well.
  • Acknowledge them for the great job they are doing.

For example, tell them that you really appreciated the way they handled a difficult customer situation or maybe the quick way they processed an order; maybe it’s the way that they have kept their work area clean. The possibilities are endless. Look for the good stuff and then let them know that you see what they are doing and how well they are doing it.

Be Positive

It’s important to focus on the positive of what they’re doing right, well and good. 

Now this can be really challenging because for the most part, we tend to focus on the negative. We are looking for what needs to be improved; what the problems are. We want to point out all the things that went wrong; and we’re trying to figure out how to fix them.

But what I’m asking you to do over the next week is to every day get up from your desk and get away from your office.

Acknowledge Them

Get out there where your people are. Acknowledge and look for the things that they’re doing right. Then, verbalize those things to them right then and there. Don’t just think it in your own mind. Actually tell them and acknowledge them. Focus on what they’re doing well, what they’re doing right, and how great a job they are doing.

You’ll be surprised how this changes the dynamic of your team and your employees. Suggest to your managers that they do this too. Create a culture of positivity and encouragement in your organization. Have everybody in your company do this by setting the example.

Looking for the positive is something that we have to train ourselves to do. 

At Confidence Coach we have ideas, processes and thoughts that help you get the greatest return out of your biggest investment (which is your employees — they are your “first” customer). 

If you’d like to talk about coaching or learn about different programs that we have, please schedule a free consultation. You can also subscribe to our YouTube channel or to our blog by clicking on these links.

Remember, you have everything you need to be successful in your business with your employees right at your fingertips. All you need to do is take action today.


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As we help business owners and CEOs with employee engagement, some of the questions that I ask them are:  How do you engage your employees?

What’s fundamentally going on in the employee’s mind?

What are they really seeking in this working relationship?

Two Takeaways.

There are two things today that I want to point out to you that are really important for your employees.

  1. The first is to be “known”. People want to be known for who they are and hear their name said. When you call them by name, it makes them feel good. Think about this — How many times do you walk down the hall, go through the warehouse, or maybe you’re out on a job site, and you don’t acknowledge someone that you see? Do you call them by name and say hello? Or, do you simply go on by? Do you ask how the project is going? How their day is going? Are you too focused on your own thoughts to stop and be friendly?
  2. The second thing is to give your employees a place in your business or relationship where they have a voice and can be “heard”. Do you have a specific place where they can report to you about safety, a project, ideas for the company or just whatever’s going on in their mind? Do they feel comfortable expressing their thoughts or concerns to you?

When we work with companies, we not only work with the owners and leaders, but we also work with their employees using The Dream Employee. Being known and heard are two of the biggest needs we hear from employees. I hope you will use these two big takeaways to improve your company culture and engagement.

This sounds relatively simple to do. However, it takes intentionality on your part to really make your employees feel that they are known and heard. These two things are critical. If you’d like to learn more of what we do and how we can implement The Dream Employee in your company, schedule a free consultation today.


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Have you ever thought about how your employees REALLY feel about your business? It may be that you haven’t thought about this or don’t think it’s important. Then again, maybe it’s a question you are afraid to ask!

Do you really know how your employees feel about your business? About working there? What does working there feel like to them?

I know some of you are thinking — I don’t really want to know; and that’s very real and understandable. However, everyone needs to think about this. How your employees feel about your business is what they’re going to reflect to your paying customers and to each other.

How your employees feel can create a culture that is really positive, collaborative and progressive, Or, how they feel can create a culture that is filled with negativity, backbiting and all kinds of other problems. These negative kinds of things can, and will, slow down the progress and growth of your business.

The Survey Solution

You may ask what can be done to help people like you with this challenge? At Confidence Coach, we come in as a third party and send out an anonymous survey to find out how your employees feel about your business. We ask them their opinion on how it’s running, how they feel about their managers, and maybe what they think of the systems you have in place. We do this anonymously so that they feel protected and can be totally honest. They know we won’t reveal their names.

We create the survey (with your input) and use questions in such a way to really find out what and how they’re thinking. Then we’re able to provide that information to you as the owner or CEO of the business. This will help you get a feeling of where your company culture is. It will help you know how employees are interacting, and how that’s being projected to your customers. This is incredibly valuable information.

We have a lot of success stories of people who have used this tool to help figure out what is going on in their company with their employees. It’s a secret weapon we provide for people on a quarterly basis. This gives ongoing information so you can make good decisions and can understand what’s happening in your culture.

We spend a lot of money as business owners and CEOs to figure out who our paying customer is. We are always trying to get to know their likes and dislikes, what’s going on with them and how we can serve them better. But most of us are missing a great opportunity if we are don’t know what our “first customers” (our employees) are thinking and feeling. The Survey Solution is a great tool for this.

If you’re interested, please reach out and schedule a free consultation to talk more about this. Also, you can check out a video on YouTube where I talked more about The Survey Solution

 


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I recently asked a client a question to help him find his purpose, stimulate his thinking, create value and to help bring transformation to him as a business owner. 

(Think of your own business and put yourself in his shoes with these same questions.)

What’s One Activity that Keeps You Interested?

The questions that I asked him was:  “What’s the one activity in your business that if you could do it everyday would keep you curious, passionate, interested, and it would also be something that you could do for the long term?” He told me what he really loves to do best is solve problems.

After he gave me his answer, I then asked him what percentage of his time is he actually doing this activity in his business. 

He then realized the amount of time was not nearly as much as he would like it to be!

Does this sound like you too?

What’s in the Way?

My next questions to him were:   

  • What’s in the way?
  • What are the things that are pulling you away from that one thing that really excites you about what you do in the business?

Take Inventory

We then had a discussion about all the things that were a distraction and keeping him away from what he loved to do. We listed all these things out and then looked at seeing who else in his company could do these jobs or tasks. This way he would have more time to really solve problems for their best customers.

Delegate What You Can

We put together a delegation plan and he’s implementing that now. It’s amazing, when you compound it over a week, month, year, or even the next three years, he’ll be able to buy back time. This will not only move the company 10x forward, but it will also increase his internal motivations and excitement. This also helps him not to feel tired and burned out because he’s doing what he’s passionate about; doing what he loves to do and being the best at in his business.

Go Full Circle – Back to the Beginning

After all, that’s why we start a business. We find something we love or some activity that we are passionate about. For our client, we just took it full circle back to the beginning to a really exciting time. This created transformation and better results by changing his thinking and attitude. It gave him a way of looking at a bigger future for himself and the company.

You can do this too! If you want help, reach out to us at confidencecoach.org or go to our website and schedule free a coaching appointment. We’d love to show you some of the breakthrough processes that we have. Let us help you get your true purpose back!


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Everybody’s looking for an edge in business. One way to have the advantage over everyone else is to find the “why” of your employees, team, managers, and leadership. Use this to show them how to connect the “why” for them personally to the “why” for the company. If you can do this, then you’ve really got something special! We call this an unfair advantage in the marketplace because your people are internally motivated; with their big “why” being the secret sauce. This is an advantage over your competitors.

Finding the “why” of your employees is critically important in order to get the most leverage out of your people’s talent and ability as they help grow the company. It doesn’t matter how many employees you have (10 or 10,000). You create an ecosystem that can provide you with long-term internally motivated employees by finding their why.

Most people come to work because they have goals and dreams in their life that they want to achieve. By finding the why and connecting their why with their job or work that they do in your company, you show them how one supports the other. This is just one of the things that we do when we introduce The Dream Employee into a company. As you help your employees to achieve their personal goals and aspirations, this creates a better work environment because they know you care about them. 

Why are they working at your company? Why are they doing the work that they’re doing? What is the purpose of their job? Are they clear about it being a vehicle for them to achieve the things that they want to achieve in their life? Have you helped them draw the connection between their job and their big “why”?

This is an area where you have to start asking these questions — even in the interviewing process when you’re on-boarding somebody. Why are you here? How do you see this job as a fit in achieving your personal goals in life? What part does it play? Do you understand how your job can help you achieve your hopes and dreams and the big “why” of your life? When you know their “why”, you can then support them in it.

So “why” is a simple question that can dramatically improve your employee engagement with all your employees. It’s a conversation that you’ll always find fruitful in managing, supporting and leading your team. If they understand their “why” then you can communicate better what the company’s “why” is and then you can correlate and connect the two of those together. When people get clear about their “why”, they gain confidence. They get committed to the task. They have a sense of courage that takes them to a new level of performance.

We look forward to hearing what you’re finding when you’re asking “why” questions. Let us know because we’d love to talk to you about it.


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