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Have you ever noticed that when you walk into a graveyard on every tombstone there’s a date the person was born and a date the person died and in between there’s a dash. 

Well, to me that “dash” is really your life. 

My question to you today is what are you going to do with your dash? 

What do you want your life story to be?

What do you want the legacy, impression, influence or impact to be with your dash?

We all think that our last day’s not coming, but we all know in our heart of hearts and mind of minds that our last day is coming.

My challenge to you today is to start living in your dash.


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If you are looking for another great way to end a meeting on a positive note, I would suggest using the Circle of Encouragement. Since we talked before about starting a meeting with wins (sharing things that people are excited about), we wanted to give you this new strategy of how to end a meeting with a lasting impression.

It can be used after a long strategy meeting, a coaching session, or any team meeting you have on a regular basis. Using this will end a meeting on a high note and in a completely different way. Each time you use it, you will get amazing results. 

The Circle of Encouragement is also something we use with our clients when we work with them during The Dream Employee process. 

My wife and I even use a modified version of this when we celebrate family birthdays with our kids. The power of encouragement goes a long way and you can never have too much of it!

This may be a real stretch for you. But, I guarantee it will create great culture, collaboration, and unity within your company in a profound way.

Here’s how to create a Circle of Encouragement: 

  1. Have your team stand in a circle. (If you are doing this virtually, just give instruction as to who starts first.) 
  2. One person starts by turning to the person on their right. For 30 seconds they say all the things that they appreciate about that person in the work that they do within the company. This is a time to speak only words of encouragement (it may be something you admire about them personally or professionally).
  3. Then the person that just received the encouraging words turns to the person on their right and does the same thing. Speaking words of encouragement for 30 seconds.
  4. This process repeats itself and goes all the way around the circle. 
  5. When you get back to the person that started it, reverse the circle (speak to the person on your left) and go the other way and repeat the process.
  6. You are done when each person gets to speak and receive encouragement from the people on both sides of them.

I first learned how to do this when taking teams all over the world on mission trips to Africa, India and Haiti. After using this with about 30 different teams over the last 10 years, I’ve since adapted it to business. 

Seeing the impact words of encouragement have on people prompted us to use this process with our coaching clients at the end of a meeting or training session. 

What this really does is it brings unity, appreciation and respect. It creates a culture where positive things are verbalized and people get to hear about the things that they’re doing well. 

This creates unity within the team. 

It also helps people in the circle who don’t work together closely get to know one another better and understand what each person really brings to the team. It’s brings great value.

Do these negative comments sound familiar?  “I’m overwhelmed because I’ve got 15 new things I’ve got to do”; “I didn’t understand that”; or “That meeting didn’t go well”?

I guarantee you will get a different result if you use the Circle of Encouragement at the end of the meeting.

Begin your meetings with Wins and End them with Encouragement! 

Create a culture that is unstoppable and goes beyond just doing a job. You’ll be creating an atmosphere that is all about seeing the best in one another.

Everybody in this day and age needs encouragement! And so we actually put it in the meeting agenda. We teach it; we do it with people. It’s uncomfortable at first. The result is the whole culture will be transformed when people start receiving encouragement.

What we are all about at Confidence Coach is transforming cultures; making the workplace for employees and owners to be awesome. 

In order to be awesome, people have to feel encouraged and to feel like they’re winning. For it to make an impact, you have to do this on a regular and consistent basis..

Let us know if you’d like more information on how to do a Circle of Encouragement at your company. We’d be glad to come in and show you how to implement it either virtually or in person. Subscribe to our YouTube channel or check us out at confidencecoach.org

Schedule a free consultation if you’d like to talk about this area of employee engagement, employee retention, or how to improve the culture of your company. 

We love what we do and we’d love to help you!


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I had a conversation with a client the other day that I’d been working with for a while. At the beginning he told me what he wanted to do in his business and what he wanted to see happen. He shared what he was working towards and what the big thing was that really motivated him.

However, I noticed as he was talking about this and as we’ve met the last couple of months, he seems to lack the real internal motivation, excitement, enthusiasm or passion to really make the commitment he needs in order to have the courage and capability to do what he needs to do to make that happen in his company. 

So I stopped him and said — what do you want? 

He said, you know what I want. It’s what we’ve been talking about. We’re going to do this and that, expand here and grow this, etc. 

And I said no. What do you really want? 

There was a long silence. He didn’t say anything and then he finally said, well, what I really want is for my leadership team to take more control and leading of our company employees and own that process.

And I said to him. Okay, what do you really, really want? 

Then he said to me he wants to have time and money from the business, to start to invest in his marriage and his kids, and in some other areas of his life for the first time in 15 years. And that’s what he really, really, really wants. 

So my question to you today is, what have you been telling yourself and other people that you really want? And then, have you actually stopped and been honest and truthful with yourself about what you want out of your business? How about what you want out of your business, your life, out of anything and everything? 

That’s my big question to you today. Not the first answer, not the second answer, and not necessarily even the third — but the third answer is probably closer to the truth of what you really, really want out of your life!

Let me know your answer. Let’s talk about it. Schedule a free call today.


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Today I’d like to give you three questions that I have been asking myself since the first of the year. I’ve used these questions to help me get moving forward, get unstuck, and also give me internal motivation to tackle the day, and in light of all the difficulties and challenges in the world today and everything that’s going on out there. I hope they will do the same for you. 

I have found this exercise to be really helpful. My coach Dan Sullivan actually sent this out to me. So, I thought I’d do the favor and pass them on to you as well. It is my hope that it will also help you to move forward, make progress and become unstuck. 

Challenge Questions

The three questions to ask yourself every morning are:

  1. What am I afraid of today?
  2. What opportunities do I have today to take advantage of?
  3. What God-given ability can I build on today?

If you ask yourself these questions every day, you’re not going to have the same answers because every day has different things you’re afraid of!!

Every day has different opportunities, and every day has things that can help you build your ability, your confidence, and your courage to move forward. 

I think what you will find is that it brings you into the activity part of the day with clarity, confidence, and courage. Thus, helping to propel you forward. 

This is a 30 day challenge I’m throwing out to everybody. 

If you’re willing to do this, drop us an email and let us know how it’s impacting and/or helping you, what you’re getting out of it and some of the reflection you’ve had. 

I just love this and I encourage you to make this part of your morning routine too. Make it the first thing you do in the morning to ask yourself these three questions.


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A good friend of mine, Cliff Ravenscraft is a coach in Kentucky. I recently heard him talk on the topic of “Who and I, and why am I here?”

This is a question that really goes back to the basis of doing and working with a sense of purpose, a sense of courage and confidence, a sense of belief that brings breakthroughs, transformations and success in your personal and your business life.

But these are questions that in the business world we don’t really ever see go that deep. 

And so today I would like to challenge you to take a minute and turn everything off and answer the two questions:

Who am I?

Why am I here?

After you’ve done this, I also challenge you to do as Cliff suggests — keep asking yourself that question for the next seven days (write it down) without looking back at the previous day’s answer and see what your answer is on the seventh day. 

Who am I, and why am I here? 

If we can get an answer to these questions, then the future becomes much brighter and clearer. 

The barriers or obstacles to the future that you have in your mind become smaller and easier to eliminate. 

The opportunities of knowing who you are and why you’re here are like a filter and this enables you to match who you are and why you’re here to the business and life that you want to lead.

Last, but not least, maybe the most important thing is to live into this as you work in your life. Live out who you are in truth, and know why you’re here in your work and have your mission become your vision in your personal and business life. 

I challenge you to ask yourself these questions.

I also challenge you if you want to have a conversation about this because maybe you feel awkward to do this on your own, feel free to reach out to me. I would be glad to spend 20 minutes with you and have this conversation and help you dig in and discover the answer to these two questions.

The answers to these questions can be quite profound. In our busy Western world we don’t ever take the time to really answer and pursue or find out what this is for us.


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I’ve a very short statement for you today. I’d love to hear your thoughts about it and whether or not you believe this is true. 

Our deepest desire in life is to find somebody who will make us do what we can do.

Let me know if you believe that’s true, or what that means to you. 

This is my actual job description as a coach.


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“What are you tolerating,” I recently asked a client. He hesitated and got really quiet and still. 

I knew from my experience in coaching that something amazing was going to happen. That there was going to be a breakthrough which I knew hadn’t been there in months. 

He then started to share with me all the things in his personal and business life that he had been tolerating. These were things that he had never stopped to think about before. And then he asked himself — why am I tolerating this? Why am I allowing this in my life? Why have I allowed this in my life the last 10 years? Then he said, when am I going to stop tolerating it and get rid of it?

We talked about the commitment it would take to do this. The courage it would take. The confidence to get rid of these things.

We also talked about the accountability that I was going to help him with to get these things that are intolerable out of his life.

I dare ask you the same question:  What are you tolerating in your life? What do you need to eliminate? 

This is a great time of year to ask yourself the same question. What are you tolerating that you need to get rid of in order to make 2021 the best year ever?


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Your “one big idea” is so important, but not so easy to capture because the world is throwing information at you at a million miles an hour. 

Everything is sped up. 

Everything is faster. 

We have podcasts instead of books.

We have the ability to listen to recordings at one and a half times speed.

Then we have apps that tell us what the books say!

But let’s think about this: Charlie Munger, Warren Buffett’s longtime business partner once said, “Take a simple idea and take it seriously and you’ll change the world.”

Let’s talk about that.

What is your one idea that five years from now you can become known for taking?

You’re known for it. 

What is that? What would that be? 

Let me know.

At Confidence Coach we are known for asking the questions that no one else asks, helping you get the breakthrough and insight that you really need to move forward to the next level. Reach out today and schedule a free call if you’d like help in moving forward or getting clear about your one big idea.


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Why is courage one of the most important values or qualities that you can have in your life and in your business?

“Sometimes all you need is 20 seconds of insane courage. Just 20 seconds of embarrassing bravery and I promise you something great will come of it.” From Benjamin Mee’s book, We Bought a Zoo

Sometimes you don’t even need 20 seconds of bravery — just one act.

What if you asked your team at the weekly or monthly meeting what they did that took courage in the last week or month and made this a question you asked them on a regular basis?

What if you asked yourself this question at the end of every workday for the next 30 days? 

There’s one thing that I guarantee would happen. Your world would be transformed.

What’s one small act of courage you could take today?

Share it with us!

At Confidence Coach we are here to offer business owners a place to reconnect and rebuild their confidence; which leads to their better future in the days and years ahead. Reach out today and schedule a free call if you’d like to talk. We are here to help and encourage you.


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Instead of thinking about what you want to become or who you want to be like — think about who you want to become. Then start making choices, habits, decisions, thinking and triggers that help you become who you want to become. 

Let’s say you want to become a better leader in your business. Then start being, acting, and choosing to be like a leader. 

Let’s say that you want to be a writer. Then start writing every day for five minutes. 

Let’s say that you want to be a better father or a mother. Then act like one.

Act like what you want to become and who you want to be.

If you want to be a hero, then act like a hero.

Over time if you develop these new actions and habits, then the way you think and act will automatically appear in your life.

So think about the question of who you want to become and then start to act like it. Start to think like it. Start to make choices around the person you want to become in order to be where you want to be three years from today.

At Confidence Coach we are here to offer business owners a place to reconnect and rebuild their confidence; which leads to their better future in the days and years ahead. Reach out today and schedule a free call if you’d like to talk. We are here to help and encourage you.

 


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