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Gratitude is something that I’ve been practicing for the better part of my life. A process called The Gratitude Experience is also something that we teach our clients.

I’ve found that gratitude is deeply important to me both in my business, personally, and also in my faith life. The practice of gratitude on a daily basis is something I started as a young child not even knowing what it was called then. I realized early on that gratitude could carry me through the most difficult situations and had great value in creating more of what I wanted out of life.

The things that we are grateful for grow as we become more aware of them, so that’s why we talk and teach about The Gratitude Experience. Here is a little simple formula that I follow and want to share with you so that you can practice gratitude too.

Record Daily 3 Things You are Grateful For – answer these questions for each thing that you write down:

  • WHAT am I grateful for?

  • WHY am I grateful for this?

  • What PERSONAL IMPACT does this have for me?

I’ll just talk you through three examples and let you see how I would answered in each scenario.

Question:  What am I grateful for?

Answer:  I’m grateful for my wife Orlena.

Question:  Why?

Answer:  I am grateful for her faithfulness and love that she’s expressed to me over the last 40 years.

Question:  What’s the personal impact?

Answer:  Her love and faithfulness give me confidence, peace, joy and love that only she could give me.

The second grateful statement might be I’m grateful today for my granddaughter Ellie. She is our first grandchild.

Question:  What am I grateful for?

Answer:  My granddaughter Ellie.

Question:  Why?

Answer:  She’s a gift from God that has come into our life when we thought that there may not be a possibility of a child – but she’s here now and a year and a half old.

Question:  What’s the personal impact?

Answer:  For me being a grandfather is a great joy for my life; more than I could have ever imagined or hoped for.

Maybe the third one would be work related.

Question:  What am I grateful for?

Answer:  I got a new coaching client.

Question:  Why?

Answer:  By coaching them I get to see their transformation and see them experience all the success that they want in their business and personal life.

Question:  What’s the personal impact?

Answer:  This is what I was made to do. This is where I get energy. It doesn’t feel like work; it just feels like something I want to get up and do every morning. I’m passionate about it. Coaching is my thing. It’s my God given ability, purpose, and mission in my life.

So these are just some quick examples of how to record the three things you are grateful for. We also have a course on gratitude. If you want to know more about it or if you’d like to implement this in your personal life, company or for your own business, just reach out to us and let us know.

By incorporating The Gratitude Experience at work, you’ll find it is also a great way to end a meeting, a week or a project that you’re working on. If you use the gratitude experience, you’ll not only see your attitude changing about things, but the attitude of all your employees and your customers will be impacted by practicing this on a daily basis.

The practice of gratitude is something that we believe is a lifetime thing. We believe it changes the quality and experience of your life in the most positive way. As you can see, we love to teach and talk about it!

The book that I wrote (The Biggest Disability is a Bad Attitude) actually has a whole chapter around The Gratitude Experience. I share the whole story of my coming into gratitude. If you’d like a free copy of my book, you can sign up on our website and we’ll send it to you at no cost or you can get it on Kindle or Audible.


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At Confidence Coach we are all about helping you create clarity and confidence in your life. When you take a break today, go to lunch or before you go to bed tonight — ask yourself these three simple questions.

  1. What is it you DON’T want in your life?

Take out a piece of paper or notebook and write down all the things that you don’t want in your life. This might sound like a strange question, but we tolerate a lot of things, interferences, and/or distractions in our life that we don’t want. For some reason we allow these things to stay in our lives and they aren’t productive. So write down all the things you don’t want in your life right now.

  1. What are the things that you DO want in your life?

Make another list and go ahead and write these things out. Really think about what’s important and want you want. Be honest and creative.

  1. What’s in the way from what you want?  

Most of the time it’s the things you don’t want that are getting in the way of what you do want. You need to get rid of these things.

So that’s our challenge for you today. At Confidence Coach, we are are all about challenging, encouraging and holding people accountable. We want to help you eliminate the things in your life that you don’t want and also help you increase your time, energy and focus on the things you do want!

By focusing on the things that you want in life, you can experience transformation, clarity and create a better feeling about your life and your business.

That’s it for today. Ask and answer for yourself these three simple questions. We’d love to hear from you about it. If you’d like to have me actually take you through the process and coach you, please schedule a free coaching conversation on our website. We will help you get the clarity and confidence back that you want to have going forward into 2019.

 


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There’s a coaching exercise that we call The Clarity Solution which helps you understand why and how you do what you do. It can also help you analyze why this is important to you. Because sometimes as owners, we forget the big stuff like this or don’t touch base with it. We can then start to drift one way or another and get off track. So with this process, people get refocused and it brings them back to who they really are and what they truly believe.

I was at a conference a couple of years ago and a gentleman speaking said this: “Love me or hate me; there’s no money in the middle.” A lot of business owners think they have to try to satisfy or help everybody. They are trying to be everything to everybody; that never works. It’s always a recipe for disaster. If someone is struggling with this, we use The Clarity Solution to bring them back into focus and ask them what it is that they really believe; what is it that they’re really doing; and who they’re really serving, both in their customers and employees.

CLARITY QUESTIONS – Ask yourself these questions:

  1. What do you stand for? What do you stand for as a business owner, CEO, solo entrepreneur or whatever you are? What do you really stand for in your business and yourself? What is that? Get clear about it.
  2. What do you believe? So what do you believe about what you do in the marketplace? What do you believe about the value you bring? What do you believe about your team (if you have a team)? What do you believe about your employees, the company, that type of thing?
  3. What is the first priority for you in your business? What is the number one thing? Sometimes we’ve forgotten what that is, so it’s important to touch base with that again.
  4. How do you go about making decisions in your business? Do you actually have a process that you go through to make decisions or are you just doing it randomly with intuition or on the fly? This question has helped a lot of people to develop a process for making great decisions for their business and their companies.
  5. How do you connect with people now? How do you connect with your employees first and then how do you connect with your customers second? Are you doing this in a systematic way? So once again we’ll bring that into focus.
  6. What are some good connection points that you haven’t been taking advantage of that you could with your employees and with your customers?

These are just some checkup points that create value for people. When you think about these things and answer the questions, you can then put things back into your business that you may have forgotten or add new things to give more focus and and clarity about what you believe. This will help you remember what you stand for and figure out who’s important to you. Once you’ve figured these things out and gotten focused again, it’s amazing how the results come back to your business in the way of increased revenue for you and value that you create for your clients.

Thanks for your time today and make it a great day. Reach out to us at confidencecoach.org/contact. We love hearing from you.


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I recently asked a client a question to help him find his purpose, stimulate his thinking, create value and to help bring transformation to him as a business owner. I’d like you to think of your own business and put yourself in his shoes.

What’s One Activity that Keeps You Interested?

The question I asked him was:  “What’s the one activity in your business that if you could do it everyday would keep you curious, passionate, interested, and it would also be something that you could do for the long term?” He told me what he really loves to do best is solve problems.

After he gave me his answer, I then asked him how much time or what percentage of time a day was he actually doing this activity in his business. 

He then realized the amount of time was not nearly as much as he would like it to be! (Does this sound like you too?)

What’s in the Way?

So, my next question to him was — “What’s in the way? What are the things that are pulling you away from that one thing that really excites you about what you do in the business?”

Take Inventory

We then had a discussion about all the things that were a distraction and keeping him away from what he loved to do. We listed all these things out and then looked at seeing who else in his company could do these jobs or tasks. This way he would have more time to really solve problems for their best customers.

Delegate What You Can

We put together a delegation plan and he’s implementing that now. It’s amazing, when you compound it over a week, a month, a year, the next three years, how much time he was able to buy back and actually put into something that not only moves the company 10x forward, but it will also increase his internal motivations and excitement. This also helps him not to feel tired and burned out because he’s doing what he’s passionate about; doing what he loves to do and being the best at in his business.

Go Full Circle – Back to the Beginning

After all, that’s why we start a business. We find something we love or some activity that we are passionate about. For our client, we just took it full circle back to the beginning to a really exciting time. This created transformation and better results by changing his thinking, attitude and way of looking at a bigger future for himself and the company.

You can do this too! If you want help, reach out to us at confidencecoach.org or go to our website and schedule free a coaching appointment. We’d love to show you some of the breakthrough processes that we have and help you get your true purpose back!


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Well, it’s November already and I’m here to talk to you about 2019. Have you ever heard the expression “shoot for the stars”? What happens if you shoot for the stars and miss them? Have you already set goals yet for 2019 for your business and your personal life?

I want to throw a challenge out to you. I want you to think about your goals (what you’ve got either rattling around in your head or maybe you’ve already written them out), and I want you to think about setting them much HIGHER for 2019 than you had first thought about.

Why, you ask?  Because, if we shoot for the stars and we miss them, we still accomplish a pretty amazing thing. So, my challenge to you is to think about your goals. If you have them written down, revise them, set them higher, double them, triple them, 10x them, and then see what that does for your thinking and your creativity. See what that does for your inspiration as you look at 2019 as being the Best Year in your business and your personal life. 2019 can be the year you will accomplish more than you have ever accomplished, but only by stretching yourself and reaching for the stars. It will be exciting to see where you end up. It’s going to surprise you, and it’s going make 2019 an amazing year.

Make it a great day.


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Something that most business people don’t think about, and it’s something that we do in every coaching session, is focus on the act and practice of gratitude. In our coaching process, at the end of each session, we ask our clients what things, both personally and professionally in their business they are grateful for. We have them speak these things out and then write them down. We do that in order to help them experience what gratitude does for people. Gratitude expands the things that we’re grateful and thankful for in our life. These things get bigger as we acknowledge them. I encourage you to make this a daily practice in your business and your personal life as well.

A lot of people practice gratitude at Thanksgiving or at a certain time of the year, but I would encourage you to make this a daily practice. Start by writing down two or three things at the end of each day that you’re grateful for both personally and professionally and share this with someone. What you’ll find is that there’s so much that is good in life that you have to be grateful and thankful for. Unfortunately, life just kind of goes by you and you don’t stop and acknowledge these things. We want to help our clients create a grateful attitude and see them experience and have gratitude in their life. This is why we do this on an ongoing and regular basis. We teach gratitude and make it really practical.

— What are you grateful for today in your personal life?

— What are you grateful for today in your work, your company or business?

— Write these things down. It can be just two or three things, but get into the habit of acknowledging and writing down what you are grateful for on a daily basis.

Over time, your mind starts to acknowledge and to identify all the things that you’re grateful for and/or that you can be thankful for. As you’re thankful and grateful for them, more of these types of things will show up in your life. You become aware that there’s so much you have to be grateful and thankful for. Gratitude and thanksgiving transform our mindset, our thinking and our whole approach to life. They create a wonderful culture and mindset.

And so that’s our thought for today — PRACTICE GRATITUDE.

My wife and I do it every day, and we also do it with our clients as we work with them. We’ve seen lives transformed —  from being ungrateful and not really recognizing all that there is to be thankful and grateful for  — to this person who has a mindset of gratitude. This is profound because it changes not only you, but the people you work with, your team around you and your customers.

Make it a great day! Practice gratitude and tell us how it makes you feel.


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Confidence

Today I want to talk to you about your confidence. Maybe your confidence is waning. Maybe you’re feeling like you’re not achieving the way you should be. Your company’s not where you’d like it to be. You’ve had a dry spell. You’ve been stuck. You can’t figure it out. And so, I just want to give you a couple of things to help bolster your confidence and ask you to take on this challenge and to see if this will help make a difference for you.

Commitment

The first thing that I would say to you is if you’re feeling like your confidence is waning, go ahead and look at your commitment level towards your goals, towards where you’re going to take your company and then re-up them significantly. For example, if you’ve committed to increasing revenue 10 percent this year, we’ve got three months left, recommit but recommit to increasing it 15 percent. Make this commitment with emotion and conviction, as well as making it known to some other people. Have some accountability.

One of the things we do with our coaching clients that they say helps them tremendously is we hold them accountable to the goals, dreams, hopes and aspirations that they have for their business and for themselves. So I would say revisit your commitment to to your goal, and if you don’t feel conviction and a passion about it, then you need to re-up that commitment.

Courage

Then the second step is after you’ve made this renewed commitment, I would like you take that step of courage. What that means is take a massive step of action towards this new commitment that you have. Think of something that would make a massive significance towards achieving that new commitment and making it a reality. And then do it!

Capabilities

After you do that, watch how quickly you come up with new capabilities in yourself, your team, the resources that you’re going to need in order to meet that commitment and to enhance that courage. You’ll have these capabilities that you didn’t realize you had that have been dormant for awhile — they will come back up and you’ll be able to say, “I can do this!” You start believing and at that point what you’ve just received is a whole new shot, a whole new boost of confidence.

What we need as business owners and CEOs is we need our confidence high all the time, and then, believe it or not, the first step is to make a commitment and then take a step of courage and then you’ll discover some new capabilities; then out of that you’ll have a new level of confidence to take you to the next step. We’d love to walk you through this. We’re at confidencecoach.org. Check us out on YouTube and we’re on social media. If you’d like to have a free consultation and talk about how to build your confidence just schedule it with us. Make it a great day.

 


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Here are three quick ideas for your today to help your company win big:

1. Ask how do we win

Ask yourself and your people this question — How does our company win big? I know you may think this sounds silly because, of course, you’re trying to win, but I want you to ask that question anyways. Get a group of your people together, ask the question, and then write down on a whiteboard all the things that they come up with it. Also, write down your own ideas as well on how you would win big in your business. What does that look like?

2. Start each day with winning

The second thing I would ask you to do is to start all meetings and the beginning of each work day with the idea of winning. Ask how are we going to win today? What’s are our wins going to be today?

3. Document your wins

The third step is at the end of the day, particularly with new people as you hire them and bring them on, have them document what their wins were for the day. Also have them document why it was important and what the next step will be for them in their winning process at work.

What you will find if you focus on winning — there will be more winning!! You’ll identify more wins and you’ll develop a culture of people that come to work every day expecting to win. When we expect to win, our mind actually finds a way for us to win, and we become this unstoppable, amazing company that’s all about winning. But in order to win we have to focus on what we are doing that’s creating the winning. How are we winning, what does that look like, and what do I need to do to win every day?

These are the three steps that we would give you to implement into your company. Try It, use it, and then report back to us and let us know how the winning is going there. Remember what you focus on, grows and multiplies. Focus on your winning. Then as you do that, your people will focus on it. And in turn, you’ll see more and more success. Subscribe to our YouTube channel or reach out to us on our website at www.confidencecoach.org. We’d love to hear from you. Make it a great day.


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You may recall that I have written in the past about the “Business of Marriage,” and how running a business and maintaining a healthy marriage use many of the same skills. Investing in relationships is essential and something we do not only with our clients but in own marriage as well.

Recently, my wife, Orlena and I had the opportunity to be on a Leverage podcast in regards to our marriage and dating relationship (yes, I did say “dating”). As some of you already know, we work together in our coaching business and we have been “dating” for 40 years! Actually, we’ve been married 37 years but I like to say we’ve been dating for 40 because that’s how long we have been a couple. We love working together, just being together and are best friends.

I wanted to share with you the podcast interview. It’ll help you get to know us a little bit better on a more personal level. It talks about our Thursday date nights. Yes, we still date each other and we highly recommend it. Check it out for yourself:

–Scott & Orlena

 


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I’ve got an irresistible offer for you as a leader, business owner, CEO. My offer to you today is give us your biggest obstacle, your biggest challenge or let us know what your biggest thing in your business is that you haven’t been able to figure out. You haven’t been able to get past. You’re stuck in. My challenge to you is to bring that to us and let us spend 90 minutes with you. We will take you through a process to make a breakthrough around that challenge, around that thing that feels like it’s impossible or that there’s no way forward or that you’re stuck in. And we will do it for FREE.

That’s our irresistible offer — 90 minutes of our time and our processes for free to help you solve your biggest obstacle or challenge.

We’d love to coach you through a process to help you get clarity, and then help you create a breakthrough or solution for you to get past whatever is stuck in your business. This could be finances, it could be employees, it could be competition, it could be about what’s happening in your industry, it could be governmental regulations, it could be something happening with you personally that’s going on. It doesn’t really matter. We’re Confidence Coach and we’re 100 percent confident that you can’t bring us an obstacle, barrier or roadblock that we can’t help you create a solution or breakthrough to.

So that’s our big challenge. If you have an obstacle (and if you’re in business we know you have one), we’d like to offer this to you today. Reach out to us on our website at www.confidencecoach.org and schedule a catalytic conversation. We will take you through a process that will lead you to the solution. There’s no charge to you. See what we can do in 90 minutes to get you from where you’re at to where you want to go and get you past whatever’s holding you back.

Now you’ve probably tried everything yourself. You’ve tried everything internally, you’ve talked to other people and maybe it’s been a year, two or even three years, and you still have not been able to figure this out. So today we’re saying to you, here’s our offer — we can help you figure this out! We’re confident in it enough to say we’ll do this for you and prove it to you without any cost to you, other than you investing 90 minutes of your time. We will work through a process that will help you to be honest about what your obstacle is and also be honest about being fully engaged in the process. When you hear our questions and then respond, out of that we will create a breakthrough solution that you’ve never thought of or you didn’t think was possible.

If you know somebody that’s in this situation (or maybe it’s you), send them our way. We’d love to serve them and show the value that we can create in just a short period of time.

Make it a great day.

–Scott

P.S. Here are 4 ways I’d like to help you improve your business:

  1. FREE BOOK – We would love to send you our book, “The Biggest Disability is a Bad Attitude”. It’s our story of who we are, why we do coaching, the way we do it, and how our strategy and processes work. Just sign up on our website to get your own hard copy now.
  2. FREE 60 minute coaching session – For one hour we will talk about your business’ future, what’s in the way, what your leverage opportunities are going forward, and how to keep building on your confidence.  Schedule your catalytic conversation here.
  3. FREE The Solution System pdf. My favorite thing to do is to take business owners through The Solution System and watch their thinking create a huge breakthrough for their business. You can download a free copy here.
  4. Work with me One-on-One. If you would like to work directly with me to create a bigger, better future for your business, just reply to this message and put “One-on-One” in the subject line. Tell me a little about your business and what you’d like to work on together, and I’ll get you all the details.

 


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