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I had a conversation with a client the other day that I’d been working with for a while. At the beginning he told me what he wanted to do in his business and what he wanted to see happen. He shared what he was working towards and what the big thing was that really motivated him.

However, I noticed as he was talking about this and as we’ve met the last couple of months, he seems to lack the real internal motivation, excitement, enthusiasm or passion to really make the commitment he needs in order to have the courage and capability to do what he needs to do to make that happen in his company. 

So I stopped him and said — what do you want? 

He said, you know what I want. It’s what we’ve been talking about. We’re going to do this and that, expand here and grow this, etc. 

And I said no. What do you really want? 

There was a long silence. He didn’t say anything and then he finally said, well, what I really want is for my leadership team to take more control and leading of our company employees and own that process.

And I said to him. Okay, what do you really, really want? 

Then he said to me he wants to have time and money from the business, to start to invest in his marriage and his kids, and in some other areas of his life for the first time in 15 years. And that’s what he really, really, really wants. 

So my question to you today is, what have you been telling yourself and other people that you really want? And then, have you actually stopped and been honest and truthful with yourself about what you want out of your business? How about what you want out of your business, your life, out of anything and everything? 

That’s my big question to you today. Not the first answer, not the second answer, and not necessarily even the third — but the third answer is probably closer to the truth of what you really, really want out of your life!

Let me know your answer. Let’s talk about it. Schedule a free call today.


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Today I’d like to give you three questions that I have been asking myself since the first of the year. I’ve used these questions to help me get moving forward, get unstuck, and also give me internal motivation to tackle the day, and in light of all the difficulties and challenges in the world today and everything that’s going on out there. I hope they will do the same for you. 

I have found this exercise to be really helpful. My coach Dan Sullivan actually sent this out to me. So, I thought I’d do the favor and pass them on to you as well. It is my hope that it will also help you to move forward, make progress and become unstuck. 

Challenge Questions

The three questions to ask yourself every morning are:

  1. What am I afraid of today?
  2. What opportunities do I have today to take advantage of?
  3. What God-given ability can I build on today?

If you ask yourself these questions every day, you’re not going to have the same answers because every day has different things you’re afraid of!!

Every day has different opportunities, and every day has things that can help you build your ability, your confidence, and your courage to move forward. 

I think what you will find is that it brings you into the activity part of the day with clarity, confidence, and courage. Thus, helping to propel you forward. 

This is a 30 day challenge I’m throwing out to everybody. 

If you’re willing to do this, drop us an email and let us know how it’s impacting and/or helping you, what you’re getting out of it and some of the reflection you’ve had. 

I just love this and I encourage you to make this part of your morning routine too. Make it the first thing you do in the morning to ask yourself these three questions.


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A good friend of mine, Cliff Ravenscraft is a coach in Kentucky. I recently heard him talk on the topic of “Who and I, and why am I here?”

This is a question that really goes back to the basis of doing and working with a sense of purpose, a sense of courage and confidence, a sense of belief that brings breakthroughs, transformations and success in your personal and your business life.

But these are questions that in the business world we don’t really ever see go that deep. 

And so today I would like to challenge you to take a minute and turn everything off and answer the two questions:

Who am I?

Why am I here?

After you’ve done this, I also challenge you to do as Cliff suggests — keep asking yourself that question for the next seven days (write it down) without looking back at the previous day’s answer and see what your answer is on the seventh day. 

Who am I, and why am I here? 

If we can get an answer to these questions, then the future becomes much brighter and clearer. 

The barriers or obstacles to the future that you have in your mind become smaller and easier to eliminate. 

The opportunities of knowing who you are and why you’re here are like a filter and this enables you to match who you are and why you’re here to the business and life that you want to lead.

Last, but not least, maybe the most important thing is to live into this as you work in your life. Live out who you are in truth, and know why you’re here in your work and have your mission become your vision in your personal and business life. 

I challenge you to ask yourself these questions.

I also challenge you if you want to have a conversation about this because maybe you feel awkward to do this on your own, feel free to reach out to me. I would be glad to spend 20 minutes with you and have this conversation and help you dig in and discover the answer to these two questions.

The answers to these questions can be quite profound. In our busy Western world we don’t ever take the time to really answer and pursue or find out what this is for us.


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I’ve a very short statement for you today. I’d love to hear your thoughts about it and whether or not you believe this is true. 

Our deepest desire in life is to find somebody who will make us do what we can do.

Let me know if you believe that’s true, or what that means to you. 

This is my actual job description as a coach.


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A while ago Angela Perkins of Xenium HR asked me if I would share my “Seven Strategies for Difficult Times” in a webinar which I recently did. Brandon Laws did an excellent job moderating and it was really a fun time. I hope the information shared in the webinar will benefit you so I’m giving you the link here so that you can listen at your leisure. These seven strategies can help you maneuver through these difficult times we have been facing over the past few months. Here are the seven areas I spoke on:

  1. Take your eyes off yourself
  2. Focus on your relationships
  3. Focus on creating value
  4. Focus on your opportunities
  5. Focus on your progress today
  6. Focus on who you can be and how you respond
  7. Focus on what’s available and be grateful

At Confidence Coach we are here to offer business owners a place to reconnect and rebuild their confidence; which leads to their better future in the days and years ahead. Reach out today and schedule a free call if you’d like to talk. We are here to help and encourage you.

 

 


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At this time, people need compassion and courage more than ever. I wanted to share a new word regarding this that I learned from my coach Brian Johnson of Optimize. This word really resonated with me because it is so true and powerful.

I’ve heard it said that Aristotle thought that courage was the #1 virtue we need to put all the other virtues into place. If that is so, then “encouragement” is a super-underrated virtue. 

You know that I am a true believer in encouragement and that my gifting is in being an encourager to others. So, you can understand why this struck me as being so important! 

Everyone needs encouragement in times like these, but they also need compassion.  

But, we need to move beyond “suffering with” others (which is the definition for compassion) in the middle of challenging times to HAVING COURAGE TOGETHER during these extraordinarily challenging times. 

New Word to Think About:

This is where Brian’s new word and definition come in that I just love:  

“Comcourage. 

To have courage together.

Here’s the definition for compassion: ‘sympathetic pity and concern for the sufferings or misfortunes of others: the victims should be treated with compassion.’

Etymologically, compassion comes from the Latin com + passio. It literally means ‘to suffer with.’ 

Here’s my proposed definition for comcourage: ‘fierce belief in the strength of others to meet their challenges combined with a willingness to act together in the presence of fear to conquer and grow from those challenges: the aspiring heroes facing challenges should be treated with comcourage.

Etymologically, comcourage comes from the Latin com + cor. It literally means ‘to have heart with.’ 

Let’s remember: Just like the heart pumps blood to our arms and legs and other organs, COURAGE vitalizes all our other virtues.” 

I hope you are as encouraged by this new word as I was. Go out and inject some courage into the ones you love and work with. 

And, may we all be willing to face challenges together. Remember, you are not alone. At Confidence Coach we are here to offer business owners a place to reconnect and rebuild their confidence; which leads to their better future in the days and years ahead. Reach out today and schedule a free call if you’d like to talk. We are here to help and encourage you.


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Do you feel that you’ve been productive through this difficult season? The pandemic has changed the way we do things and go about life. Many of us are working remotely from home, and almost everyone now uses Zoom or Skype to meet with their team, customers and even family members. 

In some ways, we have more time than we are used to. However, how are you using your time? As people are slowly going back to work and some companies are opening back up for business, I want you to look at your life and evaluate your productivity. Here are a few questions to ask yourself and really think about: 

  • What have you been doing to better yourself during this time?
  • What new things have you learned?
  • Will some of the things that you have learned make life better when the pandemic is over and we have kind of turned the corner of COVID-19?
  • What has this difficult time made possible that wasn’t possible before?
  • Have you created a new company (whether on or off line), had to reinvent your business or pivot in any way? 

As you start to think about these things, I hope you realize that you have made a lot of changes and you’ve been extremely productive during this time. You have been flexing and adapting to our changing times.

I just wanted to tell you Great Job!  Be kind to yourself.

Be present!

Be positive!

Be productive!

At Confidence Coach we offer business owners a place to reconnect and rebuild their confidence; which leads to their better future in the days and years ahead. Reach out today and schedule a free call if you’d like to talk. We are here to help and encourage you.


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When times get tough, everyone has to make a fundamental decision: to complain or to be grateful. What do you choose?

In an environment where negative sentiment is rampant, the consequences of this decision are much greater. Complaining only attracts negative thoughts and people. 

Gratitude, on the other hand, creates the opportunity for the best thinking, actions, and results to emerge. Focus on everything you’re grateful for, communicate this, and open yourself each day to the best possible consequences.  

What are 3 things you are grateful for today? Start with the small things and then you will build on your gratitude muscle.

At Confidence Coach we offer business owners a place to reconnect and rebuild their confidence; which leads to their better future in the days and years ahead. Reach out today and schedule a free call if you’d like to talk. Let us help you make progress.


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When things change for the worse, many desirable resources are inevitably missing, including information, knowledge, tools, systems, personnel, and capabilities, even a shortage of toilet paper!

These deficiencies can paralyze many people, who believe they can’t make decisions and take action.

A strategic response is to take advantage of every resource that is immediately available in order to achieve as many small results and make as much daily progress as possible. 

Work with every resource and opportunity at hand, and your confidence will continually grow. 

Network with others, give of your time and resources if you can to help others as well. There are lots of things out there that people are sharing for free at a time like this.

At Confidence Coach we offer business owners a place to reconnect and rebuild their confidence; which leads to their better future in the days and years ahead. Reach out today and schedule a free call if you’d like to talk. Let us help you make progress.

 


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At Confidence Coach we are all about helping you create clarity and confidence in your life. When you take a break today, go to lunch or before you go to bed tonight — ask yourself these three simple questions.

  1. What is it you DON’T want in your life?

Take out a piece of paper or notebook and write down all the things that you don’t want in your life. This might sound like a strange question, but we tolerate a lot of things, interferences, and/or distractions in our life that we don’t want. For some reason we allow these things to stay in our lives and they aren’t productive. So write down all the things you don’t want in your life right now.

  1. What are the things that you DO want in your life?

Make another list and go ahead and write these things out. Really think about what’s important and want you want. Be honest and creative.

  1. What’s in the way from what you want?  

Most of the time it’s the things you don’t want that are getting in the way of what you do want. You need to get rid of these things.

So that’s our challenge for you today. At Confidence Coach, we are are all about challenging, encouraging and holding people accountable. We want to help you eliminate the things in your life that you don’t want and also help you increase your time, energy and focus on the things you do want!

By focusing on the things that you want in life, you can experience transformation, clarity and create a better feeling about your life and your business.

That’s it for today. Ask and answer for yourself these three simple questions. We’d love to hear from you about it. If you’d like to have me actually take you through the process and coach you, please schedule a free coaching conversation on our website. We will help you get the clarity and confidence back that you want to have going forward into 2019.

 


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