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A while ago Angela Perkins of Xenium HR asked me if I would share my “Seven Strategies for Difficult Times” in a webinar which I recently did. Brandon Laws did an excellent job moderating and it was really a fun time. I hope the information shared in the webinar will benefit you so I’m giving you the link here so that you can listen at your leisure. These seven strategies can help you maneuver through these difficult times we have been facing over the past few months. Here are the seven areas I spoke on:

  1. Take your eyes off yourself
  2. Focus on your relationships
  3. Focus on creating value
  4. Focus on your opportunities
  5. Focus on your progress today
  6. Focus on who you can be and how you respond
  7. Focus on what’s available and be grateful

At Confidence Coach we are here to offer business owners a place to reconnect and rebuild their confidence; which leads to their better future in the days and years ahead. Reach out today and schedule a free call if you’d like to talk. We are here to help and encourage you.

 

 


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At this time, people need compassion and courage more than ever. I wanted to share a new word regarding this that I learned from my coach Brian Johnson of Optimize. This word really resonated with me because it is so true and powerful.

I’ve heard it said that Aristotle thought that courage was the #1 virtue we need to put all the other virtues into place. If that is so, then “encouragement” is a super-underrated virtue. 

You know that I am a true believer in encouragement and that my gifting is in being an encourager to others. So, you can understand why this struck me as being so important! 

Everyone needs encouragement in times like these, but they also need compassion.  

But, we need to move beyond “suffering with” others (which is the definition for compassion) in the middle of challenging times to HAVING COURAGE TOGETHER during these extraordinarily challenging times. 

New Word to Think About:

This is where Brian’s new word and definition come in that I just love:  

“Comcourage. 

To have courage together.

Here’s the definition for compassion: ‘sympathetic pity and concern for the sufferings or misfortunes of others: the victims should be treated with compassion.’

Etymologically, compassion comes from the Latin com + passio. It literally means ‘to suffer with.’ 

Here’s my proposed definition for comcourage: ‘fierce belief in the strength of others to meet their challenges combined with a willingness to act together in the presence of fear to conquer and grow from those challenges: the aspiring heroes facing challenges should be treated with comcourage.

Etymologically, comcourage comes from the Latin com + cor. It literally means ‘to have heart with.’ 

Let’s remember: Just like the heart pumps blood to our arms and legs and other organs, COURAGE vitalizes all our other virtues.” 

I hope you are as encouraged by this new word as I was. Go out and inject some courage into the ones you love and work with. 

And, may we all be willing to face challenges together. Remember, you are not alone. At Confidence Coach we are here to offer business owners a place to reconnect and rebuild their confidence; which leads to their better future in the days and years ahead. Reach out today and schedule a free call if you’d like to talk. We are here to help and encourage you.


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Do you feel that you’ve been productive through this difficult season? The pandemic has changed the way we do things and go about life. Many of us are working remotely from home, and almost everyone now uses Zoom or Skype to meet with their team, customers and even family members. 

In some ways, we have more time than we are used to. However, how are you using your time? As people are slowly going back to work and some companies are opening back up for business, I want you to look at your life and evaluate your productivity. Here are a few questions to ask yourself and really think about: 

  • What have you been doing to better yourself during this time?
  • What new things have you learned?
  • Will some of the things that you have learned make life better when the pandemic is over and we have kind of turned the corner of COVID-19?
  • What has this difficult time made possible that wasn’t possible before?
  • Have you created a new company (whether on or off line), had to reinvent your business or pivot in any way? 

As you start to think about these things, I hope you realize that you have made a lot of changes and you’ve been extremely productive during this time. You have been flexing and adapting to our changing times.

I just wanted to tell you Great Job!  Be kind to yourself.

Be present!

Be positive!

Be productive!

At Confidence Coach we offer business owners a place to reconnect and rebuild their confidence; which leads to their better future in the days and years ahead. Reach out today and schedule a free call if you’d like to talk. We are here to help and encourage you.


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When times get tough, everyone has to make a fundamental decision: to complain or to be grateful. What do you choose?

In an environment where negative sentiment is rampant, the consequences of this decision are much greater. Complaining only attracts negative thoughts and people. 

Gratitude, on the other hand, creates the opportunity for the best thinking, actions, and results to emerge. Focus on everything you’re grateful for, communicate this, and open yourself each day to the best possible consequences.  

What are 3 things you are grateful for today? Start with the small things and then you will build on your gratitude muscle.

At Confidence Coach we offer business owners a place to reconnect and rebuild their confidence; which leads to their better future in the days and years ahead. Reach out today and schedule a free call if you’d like to talk. Let us help you make progress.


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When things change for the worse, many desirable resources are inevitably missing, including information, knowledge, tools, systems, personnel, and capabilities, even a shortage of toilet paper!

These deficiencies can paralyze many people, who believe they can’t make decisions and take action.

A strategic response is to take advantage of every resource that is immediately available in order to achieve as many small results and make as much daily progress as possible. 

Work with every resource and opportunity at hand, and your confidence will continually grow. 

Network with others, give of your time and resources if you can to help others as well. There are lots of things out there that people are sharing for free at a time like this.

At Confidence Coach we offer business owners a place to reconnect and rebuild their confidence; which leads to their better future in the days and years ahead. Reach out today and schedule a free call if you’d like to talk. Let us help you make progress.

 


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At Confidence Coach we are all about helping you create clarity and confidence in your life. When you take a break today, go to lunch or before you go to bed tonight — ask yourself these three simple questions.

  1. What is it you DON’T want in your life?

Take out a piece of paper or notebook and write down all the things that you don’t want in your life. This might sound like a strange question, but we tolerate a lot of things, interferences, and/or distractions in our life that we don’t want. For some reason we allow these things to stay in our lives and they aren’t productive. So write down all the things you don’t want in your life right now.

  1. What are the things that you DO want in your life?

Make another list and go ahead and write these things out. Really think about what’s important and want you want. Be honest and creative.

  1. What’s in the way from what you want?  

Most of the time it’s the things you don’t want that are getting in the way of what you do want. You need to get rid of these things.

So that’s our challenge for you today. At Confidence Coach, we are are all about challenging, encouraging and holding people accountable. We want to help you eliminate the things in your life that you don’t want and also help you increase your time, energy and focus on the things you do want!

By focusing on the things that you want in life, you can experience transformation, clarity and create a better feeling about your life and your business.

That’s it for today. Ask and answer for yourself these three simple questions. We’d love to hear from you about it. If you’d like to have me actually take you through the process and coach you, please schedule a free coaching conversation on our website. We will help you get the clarity and confidence back that you want to have going forward into 2019.

 


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We have a process called The Confidence Multiplier that will enable you to multiply your confidence before every big meeting. Maybe you’re nervous about meeting with a customer or possibly you need to have some sort of vendor negotiation. By answering certain questions about the situation, you can gain confidence and help direct the outcome of the meeting.

Be Prepared

As we teach people how to use the tool, they are prepared before they go into challenging situations. It helps them to be at their best, their most confident and at the top of their game. Instead of being stressed, wouldn’t it be great to build up your confidence BEFORE your meeting, project or sales call? The questions we ask will give clarity and in turn increase your confidence:

  • What’s the purpose of the meeting?
  • What’s the desired end result need to be?
  • What’s the best case scenario if you follow through and do this well?
  • What’s the worst case scenario if you don’t?
  • What’s going to happen to you and your company?

By answering these questions, you prepare and practice your mind for the results that you want. When you script it out, it’s like writing a play of what you want to have happen — both the great ending and the terrible ending so that you have focus and clarity. Most importantly, this creates confidence to go into the meeting and get the most desired result every time.

This is just one of a 100 or so different processes that we teach our business owners, clients and CEO’s to help them get a better result in their everyday activities. If you’d be interested in learning more about this or getting a copy of The Confidence Multiplier process and using it yourself, just reach out to us and ask for a copy. We’d be glad to send it to you for free and would also love to hear about your results after you use it. Make it a great day!


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Confidence

Today I want to talk to you about your confidence. Maybe your confidence is waning. Maybe you’re feeling like you’re not achieving the way you should be. Your company’s not where you’d like it to be. You’ve had a dry spell. You’ve been stuck. You can’t figure it out. And so, I just want to give you a couple of things to help bolster your confidence and ask you to take on this challenge and to see if this will help make a difference for you.

Commitment

The first thing that I would say to you is if you’re feeling like your confidence is waning, go ahead and look at your commitment level towards your goals, towards where you’re going to take your company and then re-up them significantly. For example, if you’ve committed to increasing revenue 10 percent this year, we’ve got three months left, recommit but recommit to increasing it 15 percent. Make this commitment with emotion and conviction, as well as making it known to some other people. Have some accountability.

One of the things we do with our coaching clients that they say helps them tremendously is we hold them accountable to the goals, dreams, hopes and aspirations that they have for their business and for themselves. So I would say revisit your commitment to to your goal, and if you don’t feel conviction and a passion about it, then you need to re-up that commitment.

Courage

Then the second step is after you’ve made this renewed commitment, I would like you take that step of courage. What that means is take a massive step of action towards this new commitment that you have. Think of something that would make a massive significance towards achieving that new commitment and making it a reality. And then do it!

Capabilities

After you do that, watch how quickly you come up with new capabilities in yourself, your team, the resources that you’re going to need in order to meet that commitment and to enhance that courage. You’ll have these capabilities that you didn’t realize you had that have been dormant for awhile — they will come back up and you’ll be able to say, “I can do this!” You start believing and at that point what you’ve just received is a whole new shot, a whole new boost of confidence.

What we need as business owners and CEOs is we need our confidence high all the time, and then, believe it or not, the first step is to make a commitment and then take a step of courage and then you’ll discover some new capabilities; then out of that you’ll have a new level of confidence to take you to the next step. We’d love to walk you through this. We’re at confidencecoach.org. Check us out on YouTube and we’re on social media. If you’d like to have a free consultation and talk about how to build your confidence just schedule it with us. Make it a great day.

 


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What is the One Thing today that will improve your confidence? We’re going to talk about confidence again and focus on one thing or one habit perhaps. What would be a confidence habit that you could create that would serve you the rest of your life to improve, increase and protect your confidence? For me it’s sleeping. It’s exercise. It’s reading good material. It’s coaching. It’s being in front of people live or virtually and coaching them, encouraging them, giving them confidence, and transforming their experience.

But what does that look like for you and what is that one habit. Now we talked a couple of weeks ago about what gives you confidence; but what’s the one thing? It’s like a rocket booster for your confidence that you could put into your life everyday. You can invest the time — maybe it’s five minutes, maybe it’s 15 minutes, maybe it’s longer than that.

But what’s the return on investment if we invested in that One Thing that gives you confidence? I’d love to hear from you what that One Thing is and how you’re applying it.

What the Habit is, what it does for you, and how you’ve used it in the past. Think about times when you’ve really had a lot of confidence and you’ve been able to do some amazing things.

What was the thing that triggered that…

So we’re looking for for that One Thing, that one habit, that one trigger and then, we’re looking to build that into our life every day.


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Who or what is messing with your confidence?

Have you ever thought about this? Last week we talked about what gives you confidence, and we focused on that.

Confidence gives us the ability to achieve, grow and to be all the things that we want to be.

But one of the areas that you need to think about in the area of confidence is — who’s messing with your confidence? What is messing with your confidence? Is there a negative person in your life or maybe you’re not getting enough sleep? Could it be that you feel like you’re overweight or you’re out of shape and that’s the thing that’s messing with your confidence? Maybe it’s a mess in your life — maybe some mess in your garage or at your office or maybe it’s a difficult conversation that you’ve procrastinated on for 3 to 6 months or even a year. Maybe your confidence is being drained by not making a decision that you need to make to move forward. Get back to me and send me an email about what’s messing with your confidence or schedule a free consultation. I’d love to talk to you about it.


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