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Fear is a feeling; it is not a fact.

Just a thought for you today.

I’ve been noticing two different things with people.

Number one, people that seem to be controlled or manipulated by fear are people that are watching an inordinate amount of news.

And, the second thing I’m noticing is that people that have this fear are business people that are more concerned about their competition than they are about what they’re doing in their own business.

At this time, remember this fear is a feeling.

Let me restate that again:  fear is a feeling.

It is not a fact.

Be careful and be intentional about what you watch, what you listen to, who you follow, and how you’re investing your time.

Invest in things that are factual.

At Confidence Coach we offer business owners a place to reconnect and rebuild their confidence; which leads to their better future in the days and years ahead. Reach out today and schedule a free call. We are here to help and encourage you.

 


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I just wanted to tell you that it’s gonna be okay! Part of my belief in that is a matter of perspective. We may not return to our original normal but we will have a new normal. 

Here are some questions to get you thinking and to check where your perspective is: 

  • Is what you’re thinking about leading you to peace, life and a better future? 
  • Or is your thinking leading you to more doubt, more fear, and more uncertainty?
  • What did you learn during this season that you want to keep doing in your business?
  • What did you learn that you are going to omit or get rid of? 

You need to be aware of what you are thinking, watching and talking about. You get to choose your perspective of how and what you think about.

There’s a story about two salesmen who went to Africa a hundred years ago. When the first one arrived on the continent, he sent back a telegram to the home office. “Coming home on next ship. No one here wears shoes.”

When the second salesman arrived on the continent, he also sent a telegram to his home office. “Send all the inventory you can. No one here wears shoes. Huge market!” 

You and I get to choose what we think about and where we place our focus. 

Choose well! You usually get what you see. It’s all a matter of perspective. 

At Confidence Coach we offer business owners a place to reconnect and rebuild their confidence; which leads to their better future in the days and years ahead. Reach out today and schedule a free call if you’d like to talk. We are here to help and encourage you.


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When times get tough, everyone has to make a fundamental decision: to complain or to be grateful. What do you choose?

In an environment where negative sentiment is rampant, the consequences of this decision are much greater. Complaining only attracts negative thoughts and people. 

Gratitude, on the other hand, creates the opportunity for the best thinking, actions, and results to emerge. Focus on everything you’re grateful for, communicate this, and open yourself each day to the best possible consequences.  

What are 3 things you are grateful for today? Start with the small things and then you will build on your gratitude muscle.

At Confidence Coach we offer business owners a place to reconnect and rebuild their confidence; which leads to their better future in the days and years ahead. Reach out today and schedule a free call if you’d like to talk. Let us help you make progress.


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Do you consider yourself a “grateful” or positive person?

Are you in the HABIT of being grateful for things that happen in your life or do you tend to be a pessimist?

I want to encourage you that you always have a choice to react in either a positive or a negative way. Even in difficult circumstances, if you develop the practice of thanksgiving and gratitude, your outlook and attitude with improve.

What is your first reaction when things aren’t going the way you want? Next time this happens, stop and think twice about how you are going to respond.

As we say, think about your thinking. Here are some questions that come to mind that you should ask yourself first:

  • How am I going to react to this?  
  • How am I going to process this?  
  • How am I going to think about this?  
  • How am I going to respond?  

That’s what it all comes down to:  MAKING A CHOICE to be thankful and grateful in spite of your circumstances.

Do you choose to view a situation positively with gratitude or dwell on the negative?

Gratitude was a choice that I made at a very young age.

School was extremely difficult for me, and I had teachers telling me that I was stupid! (Hopefully this isn’t happening in the schools now like it was back in the ’60s.)

Luckily, I had an extremely loving and caring family so all my self-worth was not based on the education system. I also had a faith and belief in God that sustained me. (I wrote a book a few years ago that tells my whole story and the practice of gratitude.)

I decided at a very young age to think about everything in my life that I was grateful for.

Every night before I went to sleep, I sat in my little bunk bed and thought about what I was grateful for. Here are a few of those things I thought about:

I’m grateful for my grandmother and how much she loved me.

I’m really grateful for how much my parents care about me.

I’m really grateful that today I got to play football.

This may sound trivial because it’s just a little kid thinking about little things. But, it’s that kind of thinking that has made me the positive, encouraging person I am today. In fact, that’s the number-one thing people say about me: that I am one of the most positive, encouraging people they’ve ever met.

The reason for this is simple:

GRATITUDE.

I’ve made it a daily practice in my life to list out all the things I am grateful to God for. Gratitude has allowed me to be able to serve people without any expectation of them ever being able to do anything for me. Instead, I am simply grateful for the opportunity to serve and how good it makes me feel in my heart and soul.

Often people wonder why they are so discontented, unhappy and stressed. They have anxiety. One of the main reasons for this is spending too much time thinking about what we don’t have instead of what we do have.

Gratitude is like an inoculation against being discouraged, upset, afraid or depressed.

We all have low times, but gratitude can help us make our way through them.

When I am feeling down or depressed, I stop and think about what I am thankful and grateful for. When I focus on those positive things, I start to appreciate them more, and they become more valuable to me. I think about God, my wife and kids, grandkids, friends, clients, experiences, places, etc., and realize how very blessed I am!

You too can live a different life with a different purpose and a different intention. Start leading a life of gratitude. Take into account – on a daily basis – everything you are grateful for.

Please share with us how gratitude or choices have made a difference for you and what you’re grateful for today.

For more on Gratitude check out The Biggest Disability is a Bad Attitude.

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Do you sometimes feel like you don’t have any choice in making a change that will take your business to the next level?  Don’t fall into that trap.

You always have a choice.

Sometimes that choice is simply in how you respond or react to change, adversity or a particular situation.

The first and most important choice is to have a mindset to look at situations, difficulties, challenges, obstacles, barriers in your business as opportunities. The bigger, more difficult and the more challenging a situation or problem is — the greater the opportunity you have to build a bigger and better future for you and your business.

One of the ways to do this is get clear: 

  • Identify. Get out of your mind and onto a piece of paper exactly what this obstacle, barrier or challenge is.  
  • What’s in the way. Decide what are all of the things around it that are preventing you from moving past it or finding a solution to go around it.
  • List them out. List each obstacle or situation out so that you can break them down. Ask yourself the question for each one: What is a simple, basic thought to transform this barrier or obstacle?
  • First Step. What is a simple first solution or step that would take us past, through or over the top of this obstacle?

A lot of our coaching is “thinking about your thinking”.  Be aware of how you’re reacting to challenges and problems in your company, business or corporation.

I’d be curious to hear what the biggest obstacle is that you are facing. What do you feel is keeping you from reaching the next level in your business?

What’s in the way?

Identify and work on what’s in the way; then you can also get clear about solutions and next steps. (Which will also help you figure out the team and resources that you will need in order to move forward.)

Today’s all about choice. But, first you have to choose to think about these obstacles, barriers and problems in a whole new way.

That’s the challenge today — think about what’s in your way. Let us know what that is and/or schedule a free consultation and let us take you through this little exercise and help you turn your obstacles into opportunities.


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Today I just wanted to talk a little bit about the power of your mindset as a business owner, entrepreneur, CEO or leader. One of the things I want you to stop and think about for a minute as you’re leading, managing, going about your business is:

  • What are you focusing on when it comes to your business?
  • Are you focusing on what isn’t working and what the problems are?
  • Or, are you focusing on what is working and what you can build on?

And what I mean by that is:  what we focus on, what we put our mental energy into, our emotional energy or thoughts into really becomes what the result is down the road. Sometimes you don’t realize that and you are asking yourself “how did we end up where we ended up a year ago?”

Well, where you ended up and where that all started was in your mindset, your thinking or what you’ve focused on. Remember to get clear about what the result is that you want in your business in this next year, and then focus intentionally daily on your decisions, your choices, the way you talk about your business, the way you interact with your business with that result in mind.

Don’t focus on what you don’t want, but focus on what you do want the business to manifest. Focus on the result that you want to get from the business. Whether that’s a financial return or a new product launch, maybe it’s a new store to be opened up, or whether or not to go online. It could be a myriad of things. But think about what your mental focus is, your mindset, the amount of energy that is going into what you want.

Because I think what you’ll find is if you really take inventory, a lot of us spend a lot of time on thinking about things or have a mindset focused on what we don’t want.

We need to turn that faucet off. Turn on the faucet of what you do want, what you want in the future, and thinking in your mindset around that as you go through the day in your business.

So, once again, thanks for reading. We’re at confidencecoach.org. Subscribe to our YouTube channel too. We’d love to talk to you about your mindset. And if you’d like some coaching, reach out to us for a catalytic conversation. Thanks.


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As we look at our businesses and what they are doing, sometimes we can fall into the trap of saying that we don’t have any choice in making a change that will take our business to the next level.

But you always have a choice.

Sometimes that choice is simply in how you respond or react to change, adversity or a particular situation.

And so, the first choice that we’re talking about today is to have a mindset to look at situations, difficulties, challenges, obstacles, barriers in your business as opportunities. The bigger, more difficult and the more challenging the situation or problem is, this can be the greatest opportunity for you to build the biggest and best future for you and your team in your business.

One of the ways we do this is to get really clear.

  • Identify.  Get out of your mind and onto a piece of paper exactly what this obstacle, barrier or challenge is.  
  • What’s in the way. Decide what are all of the things around it that are preventing you from moving past it or finding a solution to go around it.
  • List them out. List each obstacle out or situation out so that you can break them down. Ask yourself the question for each one: What is a simple, basic thought to transform that barrier or obstacle?
  • First Step. What is a simple first solution or first step that would take us past, through or over the top of that obstacle?

A lot of our coaching is “thinking about your thinking” and being aware of how you’re reacting to challenges and problems in your company, business or corporation.

We work with people on this all the time, so I’d be curious to hear from you what currently is the biggest obstacle you’re facing in your business that you feel is keeping you from the next level.

What’s in the way?

Because if we can identify and work on that — we can also get clear about solutions and next steps. We can also get clear about the team (or group) and the resources, and what we need to do in order to get past this.

Today’s all about the choice, but you have to first choose that you’re going to think about these obstacles, barriers and problems in a whole new way. That’s the challenge today — think about what’s in your way. Let us know what that is and/or schedule a free consultation and let us take you through this little exercise and help you turn your obstacles into opportunities.

Make it a great day!


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time management

Today I’d like to talk to you about time. Yes, we’ve talked about it before, and we will continue to do so, because time is by far the greatest asset in your business. Today, I want to help you find further clarity for how you think about time and it’s impact on your business, your personal life, and your future. There are four zones of time in your life. What I want to propose to you is to look at your life and categorize them; then, with that newfound clarity, see how much time you’re spending in each one.

Zone 1: Fluff. This is all the time you spend doing things that aren’t helpful: worrying, watching the news, social media, idle chatter, distracting other people — fluff. Things that add no value to your transformation or your future.

Zone 2: Low Value. This is busywork. Errands, shopping, repetitive tasks you do that are necessary, but have small value and low return.

Zone 3: High Value. These are activities that actually make you money. Sales, revenue, high dollar investments.

Zone 4: The Lifetime Value. This time has the greatest value from now until the end of your life. These are things like building relationships, learning new things, developing new services or products, personal spiritual development, physical health — the most valuable use of your time is Zone 4.

My coaching challenge to you today is to get out your calendar from yesterday, or from all of last week or month, maybe — and take an inventory for how much time you spend in each zone. Are you really spending your working time in 3 and 4? Or is it more 1 and 2?

If you’d like a better result out of your time, if you want to spend more time in Zone 3 and 4, reach out today — and we can show you how. It’s amazing the transformation this can make.


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goals

Every business owner in the world, every day, has to tackle their own personal limiting beliefs about themselves and their business. What are the beliefs that are holding you back? Are they beliefs about the world? Are they beliefs about yourself? Are they beliefs about your customers or employees? Are they beliefs about the future? Are they beliefs about your past and your perceived failures? Or maybe it’s a belief about today that has become your biggest struggle?

Let me ask you a question after all those questions: What thoughts could move you forward from those beliefs? Reach out to us, send us an email, and give us your answers. I guarantee I will respond to what you have to say. As an executive coach, I’ve heard it all before — and I’m here to help.

What we believe becomes our reality. Changing it can be as difficult as brain surgery — but just as powerful.


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time management

My name is Scott Ballard, and I’m a procrastinator. I’ve been a procrastinator for 58 years. For all those years, in school and in business, I’ve been told that procrastination is a problem. That I should feel bad about it; that it makes me less of a leader or executive — that I should feel guilty. And that it’s somehow heaped a bunch of stress and strain on me and on my business. But I want to talk to you today about a different way of looking at procrastination, and maybe give you an idea that you’ve never considered:  maybe your procrastination is actually embedded in the genius of your mind.

Maybe procrastination is actually telling you something important:  that you need more info, or that this isn’t the right time, or that it’s not the right business venture to get into, or that’s not the right person to promote. Have you ever thought that your procrastination is actually working for you? Have you ever stopped and asked yourself, Why am I procrastinating about this? Perhaps your procrastination is actually your secret weapon.

What if you sat down at the end of your work day and you honestly said, What are the three things that I’m procrastinating on the most in my business? If you clearly identified those three things, and resolved that tomorrow, no matter what happened, you would take the next step on each of them — what would you be doing? Maybe procrastination is a bad habit. But maybe it’s your compass.

Procrastination: Good or bad? You decide.


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